And both C and i have been managing our stress in different - but the same ways.
After 2 years of searching for a home a specialist home I thought would meet C's needs where he could grow, and had the right experience to cope with C’s level of challenging behaviour. But I knew after only 3 weeks it was not the right place. But I gave them a chance, and C a chance to settle. I tried talking to them. But the things they did continued to shock me, sadden me. I started looking elsewhere. I don’t entirely blame myself. Their initial assessments should have shown them it was not the right place for C. But they went ahead. They did a good PR job on me. They failed my son.This time I feel the assessments have been a lot better and I have been involved. I was actually asked to go over Cs PCP – a first. I’ve been made to feel my insights into C are valid and useful. After all C has been training me for nearly 21 years.
I am also being involved in some important consultations where I can put C’s/my experience to good use. You can get involved too. And maybe we can save other people from going through what C and many others have had to endure.