This follows on from my post about Facial expressions.
Did you know that words are only 7% of your communication? Tone of voice is 38% and the other 55% of our communication is body language.
Most peoples body language is a bit different. Some body language might represent learned behaviours, while some of it might also be cultural (a thumbs up means different things in various parts of the world).
Body language is important, and if your words say one thing but your body says another, the person you are speaking to is more likely to believe the message your body is communicating. Very important if going on a first date! Things to look for;
Positioning of body relative to other people and things
Shape of whole body
Movement of limbs, head and fingers
Micro-movement of muscles
Skin colour and texture
Texture of voice tone
Speed of speaking
Bodily smells (eg. pheromones)
Personality and status are also given away by;
Dress, including style, tidiness, coordination.
Personal adornments, from jewellery to watches and badges.
Office and desk space at work, including size and type of computer, chair, etc.
Items owned, from cameras to cars to houses.
Here are some things for you to think about.
Its also used a lot when playing games like Poker.
Most of us read all these cues without even realising. Many autistic people find this difficult. So they appear to respond inappropriately to others' emotions. This does not mean they don’t have feelings, of course they do!
We all get it wrong sometimes!