Wednesday, 24 September 2008

Happy Birthday C xx

C is 20 today! I cant quite believe it. Reflecting as I am today the years seem to have flown by. It was my birthday a couple of weeks ago, but my son turning 20 has made me feel old!

‘The road is long with many a winding turn
that leads to who knows where’
This was at the top of the charts the day C was born. As was
‘When I'm feeling blue
all I have to do is take a look at you’.
Both songs are dear to my heart.

And the road has been long, the road has also been beautiful. There have been many steep and rocky parts as well as a few pitfalls. We have met some wonderful people along the way, some of whom have travelled with us. 16 years ago I was struggling with C in a long post office queue and a lady came to our rescue. She has been my rock and best friend ever since.

Looking back many things have become easier (like queuing) as I came to understand C and his ways and our routines became more established. I also learnt to deal with my stress better and C has learnt ways to help himself cope with things. It is very exciting as i feel C has many hidden depths that the world has yet to see.


For Cs birthday treat i took him on the London eye, something i have wanted to do with C for years. But i didn't think he would be able to cope with being encased in a glass capsule 135 metres above London's skyline with no means of escape. Until now.



Not only did C enjoy it but he also seemed fascinated by the whole experience.

To me this shows how far he has come, and anything is possible. I was soo proud of him.

C this is for you. Your favorite song - I Believe In A Thing Called Love. And i do as we travel through this life embracing Neurodiversity.
Happy birthday gorgeous! xx

151 comments:

little wanderer said...

A very Happy Birthday C x
you are both amazing people x

DJ Kirkby said...

A very happy birthday to a lovely young man. That song makes me cry... oh and congrats on thinking up such an excellent concept for your new blog. xo

Virtual Voyage said...

Many Happy Returns C - and know that the new blog will be a welcome success. All the best to you both.

Faith said...

Congrats to C on his birthday - he's the same age as my youngest daughter. So glad you both enjoyed the London Eye, a lovely treat.

DJ Kirkby said...

Oh and I forgot to say that pic of the iceberg, well isn't that just the most marvellous portrayal of autism ever?! xo

Nancie said...

Happy birthday to C! Wonderful that both of you were able to go to the London Eye together. Great that C enjoyed the experience. He has come a long way! And so have you! Keep up your good work of loving and supporting C. He is special and gifted just like everyone else. With your love and care, he will continue to grow as a wonderful young man! Take care.

Frogs' mom said...

Happy Birthday C. You and your mom can be very proud of all you have accomplished and all those you have helped and inspired.

bullet said...

Happy birthday C :D.

Mrs. C said...

He did it!! He went in the London Eye!! Oh, congrats to you both! And happy birthday to C!!

Lane said...

Happy Birthday C!

What a fantastic birthday:-)

frogpondsrock said...

Happy birthday to C.. and Happy birthing day to you as well Casdok xxx Kim

starrlife said...

Happy Birthday C! It sounds like a great time! I'll have to check out your new site!

Seamus said...

Happy Birthday C. Sounds like you all had a wonderful outing! :)

Jen said...

Oh, Happy Birthday C! I hope that you have a wonderful one. The Eye looks like a very fun place to go.

And congratulations to you Casdok, for surviving 20 years with grace and love. You and C are lucky to have each other.

Betsy said...

Happy Birthday, C....and great job enjoying your birthday treat!

Phil Plasma said...

Happy Birthday C, it is amazing progress that you've made that you can rise in the Eye and enjoy it as you did.

Congratulations casdok on getting this far and being the great mum of C that you are.

Angela said...

Happy Birthday C! Beautiful tribute!!!

Frances said...

Hello to you,

May I send along some belated birthday wishes to you, fellow Virgo, to go along with today's Happy Birthday to C.

What a marvelous birthday treat ... a new experience that was a real celebration.

xo

Niksmom said...

Wishing you both Happy Birthday! It must be amazing to be able to look back and see how far you've BOTH come. Thanks for sharing the journey with all of us.

Can't wait to check out the new blog!

Bonnie D. said...

Awesome! Happy Birthday C! That is so wonderful that he enjoyed his adventure!

Thanks for sharing this with us, you give us mom's of the little guys (and gals) hope for the future!

kristi said...

Wow, Happy Birthday C!! I think about you two every single day. I'm going to check out your new blog!

Crystal Jigsaw said...

A huge happy birthday to a very special man. Enjoy every moment.

CJ xx

Flea said...

Happy Birthday, C! How wonderful, that he enjoyed the enclosed glass. The view is beautiful!

Jodi said...

Happy Happy Birthday to both of you! That is so cool that he was able to enjoy the ferris wheel.

kristina said...

20 oh my goodness! Happy birthday and a big big hug for C, and for you.

Odat said...

Happy Birthday "C"!!!!!!!! Many happy returns!
Peace and hugs.

Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

Happy Birthday to C! It is so wonderful to look at our children and see how far they've come. You have so much to be proud of - not only of C, but also yourself. Can't wait to check out your new blog! Take care.

teeni said...

Happy Birthday to C! Well, to both of you, really! What a great trip! You both have certainly experienced and learned a lot on this 20 year journey. I know it's not always roses for either of you but my wish for you today is for many, many more roses in the future and NO thorns. Hugs!

Maddy said...

As you know my eldest is 27. It's gone in a flash. Many belated happy returns of the day!

Now I'm going to nip over and check out the new blog!
Cheers

Michelle (The Beartwinsmom) said...

Happy birthday, C! And happy birthing day to you, Casdok! What an awesome way to celebrate a milestone day!

Mima said...

Happy birthday to C, and what a wonderful job you have done bringing him up - fancy being able to go on the London Eye - what a wonderful achievement!

Traceytreasure said...

Happy, happy birthday "C" and many more!!

Hugs and belated birthday wishes to you as well, Casdok!! You both truly amaze me!! I'm so glad that I found you and I will be checking out your new blog too!!

Hugs and love, T

citizen of the world said...

A very 20th happy birthday to C, and belatedly to you as well!

FXSmom said...

Wow!! 20 yrs old. Happy birthday to C!! Love the new blog :)

Kahless said...

Happy Birthday C.
xx

Bobbi said...

Happy 20th birthday C!

Suburbia said...

A very HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you C:)
It looks like a beautiful day to take in such a view.
I think that my childrens birthdays always seem more poignant than my own.

LceeL said...

Happy Birthday, Mr. C

And a wonderful day to you, too, Casdok, you who are a World Class Mother Extraordinaire.

Osh said...

happy birthday!!!!!!

QUASAR9 said...

Hi Mother of Shrek,
and a happy 20th to C

Chris H said...

20... well done! my eldest is nearly 30! AND I will be 50 soon... sending me a card????? I want lots!

Akelamalu said...

A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY AND MANY HAPPY RETURNS TO C.

What an adventure for you and C to go on the London Eye - you're both braver than me, you wouldn't get me up there!

BenefitScroungingScum said...

Happy Birthday C, and congratulations Cas on having such a wonderful grown up son, BG x

SB said...

congrats on 20! That is awesome. 20 years of stories, memories and togetherness.

Happy Day!

lime said...

oh happy birthday C!!!!

these kids and their birthdays, it does make us feel old! but i am so glad you had such a wonderful time sharing that special experience. that is just fabulous that he enjoyed it so much. and isn't it funny some of the ways we meet people who become so special to us? (regarding that friend from the queue...)

dawn said...

Happy Birthday C!!!!!!!
You are amazing and here feel young mine just turned 22. Argggg
London looks amazing I would love to see it someday

Real Live Lesbian said...

Well happy birthday to the both of you!

Sounds like a wonderful day!

bobbie said...

A very happy birthday to C, and a belated one to you, Casdok. Thanks for stopping at my blog. I'm always so glad to see you. I check yours often, but when I see you there it usually means you have posted.

The photo of C looking down on the city is absolutely wonderful.

I will check you the new blog right away.

mommy~dearest said...

Happy Happy Birthday C! And mom, you have done well. You should be proud of your beautiful son, and also yourself!

Um...interesting video!

J said...

Wow, C received a fantastic gift! Am so glad he enjoyed it. take care--jml

Tanya Brown said...

Happy birthday, C!

I'm so glad he enjoyed the London Eye. I've been curious about it myself.

Ken said...

Happy 20th, I have wanted to go on the eye for like ever, well seems that way. When I go to london it is on my list of have to do things!!

buffalodick said...

First- Happy belated birthday to you! You are the one we have gotten to know better through your blogging.. Happy Birthday to you! Your son, of course- Happy Birhtday! I'm happy- it looks like things are smoothing out for you and him, both!

earthlingorgeous said...

Happy Birthday C. So Proud of you!

earthlingorgeous said...

Hi Casdok! There seems to be something wrong with your blog lay-out. your sidebar is way on the bottom of the page and it appears like just a one column template blog.

I found a great person with autism blog it's up there at my Earthly Explorations blog http://earthlyexplorations.blogspot.com you might wanna check it out to add on your faces of autism blog.

Alin Steglinski said...

Awesome, I am planning in going on the eye next year... hopefully is wheelchair accessible...

have not been on your blog for a while cuz google reader got screwed

sweetpeas said...

A Very Happy Birthday!!! Sounds like you had a nice day!

Okiemunchkinsmom said...

Happy birthday, C!!!

rhemashope said...

Happy Birthday, C!

Trish @ Another Piece of the Puzzle said...

Happy Birthday to C and kudos to mom!

You are braver souls than I am; I would have been curled up in a ball on the floor of the little cage if you made me go on that thing!!

Cheri said...

Happy birthday to both you and C. It is funny how the number of our own years seems insignificant to the milestones in our children's lives. Zach will be 21 in November. I can't beleive my baby is going to be old enough to actually do the adult things in Las Vegas! ;)

Ron said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR C!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TOOOOO YOOOOOU!

*Now blow out the candles, C!

YAHOOOO! YEEPEEE!

Absolutely a lovely post, Casdok!

What a wonderful celebration!

Gosh…I got all teary-eyed!

And WOW…C is A LOT braver than me…cause I don’t think I’d ever be able to go on the London Eye!

(I’m such a scaredy cat)

Thank you for sharing this day with us, dear lady!

And I can’t wait to check out your new blog!

Love to you and C!
X

Ron said...

Hello...it's me again!

Just checked out your new blog...

FABULOUS!!

Way to go, Casdok!

~Miss Nelson said...

Happy birthday to C. How awesome is he and how awesome are you. We missed you in the blogging world.. Blessings to you and C both.

Get Off My Lawn! said...

20 years, He aint heavy. Must have been the Housemartins version. I miss them and Fatboy Slim or The Beautiful South just don't seem to fill the gap.
I will listen tonight in honour of the birthday. And, belated, many happy returns to you as well.

deb said...

Happy Birthday to you both. I'm smiling because he was able to do something you didn't think he could. That's a lovely feeling, I know it well. Take care sweetie.

misha_k said...

Happy Birthday C! And what a great way to spend it.

Static Mom said...

What an incredibly awesome blog! I love it, and I will be back!

Wishing C a wonderful and very happy birthday!!!

She said...

Happy Birthday to C!

You both are amazing and wonderful!

Loved the photos. Looks like a lot of fun!

leechbabe said...

Happy Birthday C.

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

Happy birthday to C and happy 20th anniversary of becoming a mama to you, Casdok! :)

Honeysuckle said...

Sorry I'm so late with this - Happy Belated Birthday to C! (Who's much braver than me in going on the Eye...)

MarmiteToasty said...

Happy belated birthday wishes to you dear lady.....may life treat you well..

and HAPPY BIRTHDAY young man to you C.....may you be blessed with beautiful people throughout your life, as you have blessed others.....

x

Sue said...

How very proud and happy you must be!

Happy Birthday to C!

My Autism Insights said...

Hope you had a wonderful birthday, C!

Faces of Autism is a beautiful blog! Wonderful idea!

DES said...

Happy Happy Belated Birthday to you both! Sounds like he had a wonderful birthday (and you too) :)

Amazing how when we stop to think back how far they HAVE come. I know my guys find very creative ways to cope with new situations...and find their own ways of comfort.

*sighs* I'm with you on the feeling old...ARG! ;)

Love the pics...and the songs, btw!

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Happy Belated Birthday.

It looks a perfect way to celebrate a milestone.

Merlin's Wizard said...

Happy Birthday C. hope you have had a super time and roll on next year for the 21st celebrations!

Take Care
MW
xxx

Pondside said...

A belated Happy Birthday to you and to C. I know what you mean about a child's birthday - it supplants one's own, doesn't it? Lovely that C is so close by now, so that his birthday celebration doesn't have to include a long trip to be with him.

Debs said...

A very happy belated birthday to the wonderful C.

I'm so glad that he enjoyed the London Eye so much.

I always feel rather emotional at each of my children's birthdays, such special memories.

Dx

Sarcasta-Mom said...

Happy Birthday C!

What a long road indeed. Every birthday my kids have startles me, and I can't imagine what it will be like when they're 20.

nitebyrd said...

I hope that C had a wonderful birthday! You must have been warm and tingly all over that he enjoyed the outing. I'm sure there will be plenty more to follow.

Feel younger, Cas - my daughter is 31 today! OMG!

TOM FOOLERY said...

Sorry I'm a wee bit late but Happy Birthday C. Will check out your new blog TFx

JoyMama said...

What an enchanting birthday. Belated birthday greetings to C!

MotherPie said...

Happy B-day, C!!!!!

Andrea said...

Happy Birthday to you both.
The pictures from the London Eye look great.
Glad you both had a good time.

Dad Stuff said...

Happy Birthday C! Keep on surprising Mom.
I'm not sure I could have gotten Lady Di on that ride. Way to go!

Congrats on the new blog. It's amazing.

Jade said...

Happy birthday to C!!!

And congratulations to you for being such a awesome mom! You both deserve awards. Glad to hear you guys had a nice adventure out! Hope there's many more to come!

leslie said...

A very happy birthday to C and a belated one to you! I pray for peace for you both. Now I'll go check out your new blog.

leslie said...

Hi again. Just came back to tell you I absolutely LOVE your other blog. Such CUTE kids and a few lovely adults.

Cat said...

What an incredibly beautiful tribute to your son.

Happy Birthday C from Arizona!!

Anne Brooke said...

Happy birthday to C! And it's true - anything is possible.

Hugs to you both

Axxx

Jessica said...

Happy Birthday C! You are one amazing young man and I hope that my son will be as inspiring as you have been for all of us. Thank you and enjoy your special day.

Jessica and Wesley

JUST A MOM said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!

Bee said...

Happy birthday C!!!
My little one is only 5 1/2, it seems so far the day he will be 20! But I know I will look back too and I can already say that autism has enriched my life in some ways. My son is my ray of sunshine and we are blessed to have him in our life.♥ :-)

Annie Bright said...

Happy Birthday C (sorry I'm a bit late) :-)
x

laughingwolf said...

happy day, bud... and many more :)

Shrinky said...

Happy birthday C, and yes casdock, both of you have certainly travelled a long, often precarious, but steady path to where you are both at now. I love that you took him up on the Eye. I still haven't given up on that (we've queued up with tickets twice now, I reckon it'll be third time lucky - wink)!

BT said...

Wow, 98 comments, that has to be some sort of record! I came from 'Benches' and am glad I did. Happy Birthday (a day or so late) to your C. You have obviously had some downs but thankfully, some big ups too.

I worked with 2 fathers, both had autistic children and another friend of mine works for the autistic charity and is amazing.

I'm off to read some back posts and check out your new blog.
xx

CrazyCath said...

You have so much to be proud of too Casdok, not least your unswerving love and support as a mum.

Congrats to you both on two decades of togetherness and love.

Goldie said...

Happy HAPPY birthday C!!!
what a wonderful, touching post.

And can I just tell you-- you inspire me. you embrace neurodiversity and focus on the positive, even when it is hard. That is AMAZING.
and you have great taste in music!!!!

Eileen said...

Happy Birthday to you and C. What a beautiful post, from a beautiful person and mother. The photos say it all, C looks like he is enjoying it so much. How wonderful that time must have been, for both of you.
I have learned so much from you since I found your blog. You have helped me more than you know. Thank you for your kind words and support, during this tough time.

XXXXXX

Dianne said...

the photos of C on the Eye are beautiful and wonderful and made me so happy

Happy Birthday C
and Happy C's Birthday to you casdock, you're a good good Mom.

ilana (Helen) Pengelly said...

Great blog - off to view the new one too. Thanks to the BBox for spreading the diversity neuro and otherwise around!

tulipmom said...

Happy Belated Birthday to C.

I just checked out your new blog ... what a wonderful idea!!

Thanks for stopping by my blog.

bohemian mummy said...

Happy Birthday C.
Glad you had a fantastic birthday.
Thank you Casdok for coming along to my Blog and for welcoming me into Blogland.
BM x

Mama Zen said...

Happy Birthday, C!

Cyndi said...

Happy belated b-day C!!! :)

Raven said...

Happy Birthday to C. Lovely post. Glad it was such a great day for both of you.

Marla said...

Happy Birthday C!!!! We love you!

Well over a hundered comments! This is like a world record or something!;)

DesertHen said...

I arrived here via the Black Box.......I'm so happy I landed here.....=)

Your blog is amazing!

A very Happy Birthday to your C. and a Happy Brithday to you too....=)

Beautiful Days to you both.......

lonestar818 said...

Happy birthday C!! Looks like ya'll had an awesome day :)

CrackerLilo said...

Glad C (and you) had a good birthday! I love the story of you meeting a good friend in a line.

Dave Coulter said...

Happy Birthday, and MANY happy returns as well!!! :)

Cheryl said...

Just wanted you to know that Eileen is my middle name. I deleted life of triggers, hope you'll visit my new blog. I would miss your insight and hope.

The Dotterel said...

Here, here! (And sorry it's late.)

Ellee Seymour said...

Happy birthday C. I hope he enjoyed the London Eye.

Kit Courteney said...

Just back from my holiday but a VERY happy belated birthday to C, indeed!

What a lovely uplifting post this is :0)

Kittymama said...

Happy, happy birthday, C! This may come late, but know that you and your mom are in our prayers always. Hugs!

Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

Oh! Many happy returns of the day to C! And what a gift you gave him. How sweet that he enjoyed it.

alan said...

A belated Happy Birthday to both of you!

You have way too much heart to ever grow old, btw...

May the next year bring more wonderful days like the day you describe here!

(though with my fear of heights, I'm afraid I'd be on the ground watching...)

alan

Motherhood for Dummies said...

Happy birthday C. Glad to hear he enjoyed the Eye. Man, kids really do grow up, dont they?

E said...

Happy birthday to you both. It is your day to celebrate who you are and who you have both become together. You inspire me always Ms Casdok....

MamaGeek @ Works For Us said...

Happy Birthday! And yes you SHOULD be oh so proud indeed!!

Sass E-mum said...

Happy Birthday C - that's how I celebrated by 30th birthday too.

I like the new blog. A beautiful idea.

Trac said...

Happy Birthday C! x

Black Box brought me here, but oddly enough, I have spent a lot of time reading your blog before.

You're fab! :O)

Suzy said...

All the very best to you and C!!!!

You have both taught so many people so many things.

It is a gift knowing you and reading your posts.

Love,

Suzy

melody is slurping life said...

Belated, but sincere, happy birthday wishes.

A beautiful reminder that hope is eternal and life is good...if only we choose to see it.

Julie said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

blogthatmama said...

Casdok as usual a lovely, lovely uplifting and inspiring post. Hope you had a happy birthday and that C did too. Will be visiting your new blog now. Blogthatmamax

Dianne said...

I managed to lose your e-mail somewhere in the hive of my files

I am giving you a little something over at my blog :)

Merelyme said...

A big happy birthday "C"

Rosie said...

best wishes and love

San said...

C is blessed to have you as a mother. And I can read your sense of wonder at having him for a son. Happy birthday to both of you!

vivavavoom said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GLAD YOU WERE BORN!!!!

Bettina said...

Happy Birthday C!!

Sounds like you had a great day. :)

Rhonda said...

What a wonderful way to celebrate his day! Pretty awesome that he so enjoyed it.
Happy Birthday to C!
And I agree having a 20 (22) year old really makes ya feel o l d.
:)

VAB said...

Happy Birthday, C!

Casdok, do you realize you have got our whole family hooked on that song now.

Sally's Chateau said...

Haven't been able to pop by for a while but so glad the two of you have got this far, a long and difficult road I'm sure. xx

menopausaloldbag (MOB) said...

Bugger I missed it on the day. Just catching up with you now. Sounds like you both had a great day. You both sound much more settled and what progress he is making eh? You must be so thrilled. X

rainbowmummy said...

Hi just popping by...
then I saw the NAS think diferently, your from the UK!! Hi fellow brit!!
What a great birthday!!

rainbowmummy said...

LOL you're from the uk

rainbowmummy said...

Love that you have a link to the petition!!

Seen This Scene That said...

Happy birthday C! and thanks to you Casdok for sharing your joys! Good luck to your new blog too!

Babaloo said...

A belated Happy Birthday, C!

I haven't been here for a while, so I'm catching up now. Glad you and C had a good time on the London Eye, it is a great ride!

motherx said...

Happy Birthday to C !! hope he had a wonderful day!! My boys loved the London Eye aswell! Glad he had fun.x

lonestar818 said...

Hi again, stopping back by to let you know I tagged you for an award, stop by my blog to check it out :)

http://3runningincircles.blogspot.com/2008/10/award-time.html

Elizabeth Channel said...

Happy Birthday! That photograph in the eye is something I won't soon forget. Thank you, as always, for sharing.

rainbowmummy said...

I have a little something for you at mine!

Jade said...

Man I love seeing that you and C have so much support out in the world...Obvious by the 150 posts to your blog entry. :-)You two deserve it!!!
Just thought I'd say that. :-)

MarmiteToasty said...

Happy Belated Birthday Wishes C........ just look how far you have both come....... smiling...

x