Sunday, 31 August 2008

Liberty Festival 2008

C is still finding the move to his new home difficult. He has been home for a couple of weekends now which have been great, and has been overly excited! His new home is close enough for me to be able to just take him out for a day, which I did yesterday for the first time. We went to London to see the Liberty Festival. Celebrating the contribution of Deaf and disabled people to London’s culture at Trafalgar Square.

When I picked C up, I did a quick mental check of his appearance (as us mums do!) his hair needs a cut as do his nails, but as yet he is not letting anyone intrude on him that much. I looked at what he was wearing, as its weird what other people dress him in. Tee shirt- good, long shorts- good. He looked great- he looked gorgeous until I scanned down to his feet. Socks AND sandals!! Why do people do this to people with learning disabilities (I also see this in my home town). He’s 19! C should be trendy and fashion conscious!
So the first thing I did on the train was to take them off without getting my ears drums burst from Cs excited squeals.

We arrived in London in glorious sunshine, the first we have seen all summer. Trafalgar square looked great and had a wonderful carnival feel to it, with music, comedy and caberet, performers, stalls, side shows and wafts of cooking smells.


There was a lot to see, my favourite was Barbie imperfecta - The chance to mess with the media’s idea of perfection, if you ever wished Barbie to look more like a real people this is your chance.
I tried to put Barbie’s fingers in her ears but she wasn’t having it! What would you have done?





Do you remember Chip? They used to be on street corners begging for money. Thankfully you don't see them any more. Barbara Lisicki 'freed' several of them and were asking people to give them makeovers!










Cs favourite was feet watching.









At one of the stalls I signed something, turned to walk away when I heard "Casdok -are you Casdok?!" I certainly wasn’t expecting that! And ended up having a lovely chat with 2 very charming young men from the London Autistic Rights Movement, Roderick and Tom.






These balloons then caught my eye as there was a leaflet with a photo of Amanda on it from her Getting the truth out site (which is under construction at the mo) The balloons stood for people trapped in the care system without access to information and communication technology. I couldn't stand and chat to the people from AutreachIT at this display as C had had enough by then.






So hot and weary we went back down on the tubes which C cant get enough of! (Quickly walking past this poster!)
And then headed south back to Cs home. He was not impressed to be going back so soon after a lovely day out. I found it hard to as he didn’t want me to leave. Fighting back the tears I said goodbye and handed over the offending pair of socks.




This Kick Ass blogger award is from Bobbie. Thank you Bobbie.

I'm only supposed to pass it on to 5 other Kick Ass bloggers which is not easy as most parents of Autistic children have to kick ass! So (and i hope Bobbie doesn't mind) i would like to pass this on to you all.

168 comments:

BenefitScroungingScum said...

It's lovely to see you posting, and I'm glad to hear all about your's and C's great day out. How exciting that you were recognised from your blog-next step global domination I hope!
Lots of love to you both BG x x

Lady in red said...

it sounds like you both had a good day out.

you were lucky to find the one and only summery day in august.

I hope you get to have more days out like that thank you for sharing it with us.

Trish said...

So glad you had a lovely day and that you were able to avoid a fashion faux pas! Maybe the person who dressed him just doesn't know how to dress very well, LOL.

Soon you will need a publicist and a bodyguard to restrain your adoring fans. :)

Mama Mara said...

Yay! So glad to read a new post. I hope you won't forget about us now that you're *famous* (did the guys get your autograph?).

Re the sock/sandals thing: my wusband does this too. He's not disabled in the traditional sense, unless fashion-challenged counts.

Re the Barbies: I'd try to feed them, the poor emaciated things.

Re the "Chip": What? Ignorant American here.

Thanks for the trip to Trafalgar!

Okiemunchkinsmom said...

What a fun festival! Thanks for sharing the pics and your day. Oh, and glad you got the socks off of his feet :)

DJ Kirkby said...

OMG! How totally cool is it that you were recognised?! I am so pleased to read that you and C got to enjoy a day together. As for the socks and sandals thing well N3S insists on wearing socks with hsi sandals, it is a real battle to get him to go sockless. xo

Angela said...

Sounds like a fun day.

Socks and sandles could be worse

I have let Gregory do that because somethings are just not worth fighting a two year old over

Bonnie D. said...

Sounds like a great time. I've been to London twice and loved Trafalger Square. Wish we would have something like that here!

Are you a celebrity or what? lol

I agree with the dressing thing, I always try to dress Casey in the latest styles so he "blends" although i always have to take in account elastic band pants for quick bathroom trips.

My heart hurt for you when your described having to leave him that night. I can only imagine how difficult it must be. You are very strong!

Akelamalu said...

Sounds like you had a great day out. It must be so hard for you to leave C. :(

Ron said...

Good Day, Casdok!

First of all, CONGRATS on your award, because you SOOO deserve it!

oooh...oooh...what a lovely day you both had! Wish I had been there with you (I LOVE balloons).

And I SO agree about the "socks with sandals thing"...I see it so much here, and it makes me go insane. It's like they couldn't make up their minds if they wanted to wear sandals or shoes!?!?

Anyway...so glad you had such an enjoyable day!

Love to you and C!

DES said...

Congrats on your award....you are one amazing person! :)

Love reading about your outing...sounds like a wonderful day (despite the sock and sandal mess>>oh yuk)!

I know how difficult it must be leaving him...it tears your heart out doesn't it?

(((HUGS)))

DES

Tanya Brown said...

A golden day, it sounds like.

Your having to drop C off brought ears to my eyes. I can imagine it. It's the right thing to do, but no doubt incredibly difficult. Give your young man a hug for me the next time you see him.

Palm Springs Savant said...

Casdok- this is wonderful, one of my friends in London was there as well with his cousin. Glad C had a nice time.

laughingwolf said...

glad most of the day was positive, cas :)

Tanya Savko said...

Sounds like a wonderful day out, and congrats on your award! So generous of you to pass it on to everyone! Thanks for all you do. Take care.

Joker The Lurcher said...

so great you can have a day out in london! my son finds it all a bit tough so we don't go there very often. well, we've only been the once... and the festival sounds great!

mountainear said...

A day together and sunshine too - lucky people.

Mrs. C said...

OK, your comment about not letting C wear socks and sandals together really got me thinking. You see, my Nana used to be very particular about her appearance. She kept her figure and dressed in very nice, fashionable clothes. ($$!) Her hair was ALWAYS well-done. Imagine Barbie about 50 years older and not so busty, and you have Nana.

(Actually, she bore a great resemblance to the Queen, even the same hairdo and glasses. Good thing we are American, honestly, or Nana would have had to perfect "the wave.")

Then she got dementia.

She wasn't the same person, and though she could dress herself until near the end, her choices in terms of outfits was not what the previous "her" would have wanted to be seen in.

I appreciate that you're looking out for C in that he ought to be looking just like any other kid to the greatest degree possible.

My own children are not quite autistic enough to let others make dressing choices for them, but ARE enough that, um, their choices are a little odd.

They are expressing their neurological diversity, ok?

See, I'm learning from you every day. :]

OK, I've written a book. Many hugs.

PS Just whose butt is getting kicked in your award? Need to know. LOL

She said...

Thanks for stopping by today!

So glad you had a lovely day out with C!

The festival sounds wonderful!

I would love to have been close enough to attend.

Rosie said...

hurrah for days out...glad you both enjoyed it!
good news from me...the school where I made some music last year has invited me back again this year (they got enough budget!)

Lane said...

I remember Chip. Didn't remember that they were called Chip though and glad we don't see them anymore!

I'm sorry that C is finding the transition difficult. Glad you both had a good day out together.

Cheri said...

It sounds like you and C had a wonderful day! I worked in a home for a couple of months this summer, and it was always the highlight of the day/week when a family member came to take one of the guys out for fun! It was ALWAYS more treasured than the outings the guys planned for themselves, and the effects lasted for a while. Something to look forward to, something to remember, something to treasure!

Eventually C will realize that you will be coming back regularly and will not be so afraid of you leaving.

There aren't enough awards in this world that can adequately represent what you have done for C, and what you continue to do for countless autistic children who may never know your name!

Nicely done!

Angela said...

I almost peed my pants laughing when you mentioned the socks with sandals... why do people do that??!

I love that you were recognized! I am surprised that you aren't more of a local celebrity at things like that.

Oh and kudos on your very well-deserved award!

Michelle (The Beartwinsmom) said...

I would have LOVED to have gone to an event like that.

How COOL that you were noticed- almost like a celebrity! That must have been a little odd at first.

Socks and sandals.... well, I see a lot of NT college kids do that. But I HATE seeing it because it looks so silly. I agree with you Cas- C should be fashionable.

Sunshine in London! How often does that happen? (wink)

Glad you both had a wonderful time, but like you, I would have gotten tearful at the end.

(((Hugs)))

leechbabe said...

Socks and sandals. Why do that to anyone.

Sounds like you had a lovely day.

teeni said...

I was so happy to read that you had a nice day out with C! How cool is it that you were recognized! I hope your fame never goes to your head! LOL. I've never liked the socks with sandals look. It looks like it was a beautiful day. The Barbie makeover sounded very interesting to me. How sad that you had to part and sadder that you knew he didn't want you to leave. But the good thing about parting is that you get to meet again. :) I hope you and C have many more beautiful days like this.

Cyndi said...

That sounds like a wonderful day out. Great pics! :)

Half rabbit said...

So what exactly is wrong with wearing socks and sandals (yes I read the link). This is spoken as someone C's age (well + around 1.5 months) who can't wear a shirt untucked without feeling strange, so forgive me for the grave fashion ignorance :).

FXSmom said...

Wow...what a great day you two had :) Though socks and sandals...maybe they need their IQ checked ;-)

Honeysuckle said...

That sounds like such a great day out! It's horrible having to leave again tho', isn't it? I hope it gets easier for both of you over time.

Kittymama said...

Oh, how I missed you, dear Casdok! It was sooo great to read all about a wonderful day with C! And it's great that the weather seems to cooperate with you too. :-)

I may get some boos here but I like socks and sandals. My feet get sweaty without socks, and even cushioned foot pads abrade my soles, so I can't live without them. Imagine Hello Kitty socks on pink sandals! I know you must die of shame, but I kinda like it. It's my quirk (Alphonse's too) and I've gotten used to stares, heehee. But okay, just for you, I'll try to wean Alphonse off the socks too. Hugs, dear friend!

Cait O'Connor said...

Fantastic post as usual Casdok. Lovely pics and a great day out for you both.

Kelley said...

Been thinking about you and C babe.

Sounds like it was a wonderful day, even when I read between the lines ;)

Elizabethd said...

Sounds like a great day for you both.

bobbie said...

Hi Casdok

I'm so glad you had a wonderful day out with C. Sounds pretty great.

You do exactly what you want with the award. I did. Rules are just made to be broken anyway.

I loved the captive balloons. A great way to make a point.

lime said...

it sounds like it was a terrific time. i'm so glad you are close enough to C to allow for nice adventures like this.

as for barbie, i would have thickened her waist and made her breasts sag. ;)

Frances said...

Hello Casdok,

It's lovely to know about your sunny day out with C. I'm sure that there will be many more. Maybe thinking of that makes parting from him a bit softer.

xo

Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

Looks like a great day out. Glad the transition is going well.

deb said...

I check to see what Katie's wearing too, she's only sixteen and I want her too look age appropriate, within reason. Humans judge each other by how we look, sad but true, and handicapped people often stand out because of how they're dressed. Thank you, it's nice to know I'm not the only one. Sounds like he had a good day.

It's been seven months for Katie and the other day I went into her house and sat down to talk for awhile with her and her staff. After a few minutes Katie told me to leave, now. Several times. C. will get there. So will you. Take care sweetie.

Pondside said...

What a great day! I had to laugh at the vision of you and C getting those offending socks off - you are a terrific Mum!!!! Of course he wants to look his age and not like some old fellow from the suburbs! It really sounded like the perfect day together for the two of you.

Get Off My Lawn! said...

Sounds like it was a lovely day. I would have set Barbie's hair on fire, bored holes through her abdomen and burned marks around them in order to make them look like bullet holes. Just like the old days when GI Joe had no one else to fight.

Perhaps I was a strange child.

Suzy said...

Sounds like you had a fantastic day that was long overdue!!

I would make Barbie pick her nose.

Love to you and C.

Suzy

Merelyme said...

wow...you are still blogging! that's great. i had started up an autism blog but stopped because of all my medical issues. but now i am writing over at a health site about multiple sclerosis and also depression.

do you know of any fellow bloggers who have MS and have a child on the spectrum. i would love to connect.

here are the links to my writings on the health site. good to see you and C.!

http://www.healthcentral.com/depression/c/84292/profile

http://www.healthcentral.com/multiple-sclerosis/c/73302/profile

Traceytreasure said...

Good job on removing the socks!! Socks and sandals are just like oil and water. I wish everyone knew that! I'll bet "C" was watching out for others so he could clue them in on what everyone should already know!! Thanks for your visit! I always love hearing from you!! You and your blog really kick ass! Congrats on the award!! You and "C" rock!! Big hugs and love!! :)

Eileen said...

I feel like this is my lucky day, I clicked over here, hoping to see if you posted. I have been wondering how C was doing in his new home. I am sure it will take time, more time, but I know that as a mom, it is so hard to wait. Although, in my heart I know sometimes waiting is the best thing.

I am glad that you get to spend more weekends with C. The festival looked wonderful. Such a great idea, a beautiful day, so much to see.

Glad you handed them the socks back. Hopefully, they got the message.

Take care, good to see you posting again.

Debs said...

Your day out together sounds like great fun.

Congratulations on your award, well deserved.

You are an inspiration.

mumkeepingsane said...

I went out with socks and sandals the other day *hangs head in shame*. I honestly didn't notice until I was where I was going.

Sounds like a fabulous day out. I'm sorry C is still not loving his new living arrangement. I imagine time is the answer (how frustrating).

I was really happy to see you had posted an update.

FunkyMunky said...

Sounds like a perfect day out. I'm sure the lovely weather must have helped too.

I love London, used to live there and sometimes still miss the hustle and bustle.

Must have been hard for you to leave C at the end of such a wonderful day. Hope you have another one together soon.

elizabethm said...

What a good day you both had (and so with you on the socks). It is great to hear you both having a good time.

Osh said...

thank you for sharing your day...over the weekend somebody told me that they thought Evan would end up in a group home after high school and I thought of you and C and my heart just ached for you and all you have been through (just thinking about it)...and then I saw you commented on my blog and then you had a new post! (so even though the commenter to me was a boor, there was a happy ending...hearing from you!)

Trixie said...

Urgh, socks and sandals. Everytime I send my boys to their dad in their sandals, they come back wearing socks with them! HELLO???? Sandals are made to make your feet BREATH!!!

lonestar818 said...

Sounds like a beautiful day! Although the ending just made my heart ache... hope ya'll get to spend another day together like that soon!

Joy said...

I'm so glad you had a good day with C. I love the pictures, thank you for sharing them.

Flea said...

Looks like y'all had a fantastic day. Thanks for including all of us! And there's nothing wrong with socks and sandals. If you live in Florida. :) My children do it all the time. In the winter. :)

little wanderer said...

Now that is what a call a great day out, so nice that C is close enough for you to take him out like this.
as for Barbie, I would have made her fat!

Tera said...

I'm so glad that you and your son shared such a wonderful day together. May those special times always keep you going during the poop-cleaning incidents :-)

Sass E-mum said...

Socks and sandals! Sounds like a great day. I felt very sad when it came to an end.

Annie Bright said...

What a fantastic day out - thank you for sharing the photos. And congratulations on the award - well deserved. :-)

Stinking Billy said...

So pleased I caught this one, a real peach to read and so well illustrated but, above all, so upbeat! Your day of happiness shone right through the whole post.

Bettina said...

Sounds like a great day out!!

That must be so nice having him close enough for day trips out. And yes, the socks must come off! lol

buffalodickdy said...

Glad you got out for a little fun!

Fire Byrd said...

Good to know you had such a great day together especially without socks!

Ivy said...

When you returned the socks did you have a look at the person's feet? Probably the person who assisted C's dressing in the morning wears socks in his/her sandals her/himself ;-))

Glad you can take him out to mother and son trips more often now. I guess it's normal he finds it irritating in the new place.

J said...

Believe it or not Birkenstocks and socks were all the rage when I was 19 and in college back in the early 1990s. (I didn't follow that trend though).

I'm sorry that C is having difficulty adjusting to his new home, but glad you are close enough to visit and take him out on outings.

As for barbie, I recently came across the sole Barbie I owned as a little girl and can tell you that she was having a really bad hair day--which is something we can all identify with.

It seems like an alternative Barbie doll was designed by sensitive people years ago. She had brown, hair, shorter legs, a thicker waist, and a smaller bustline. Can't remember what they called her though. I'm not sure if it's still being sold or if it was an unfortunate flop.

take care--jml (scooter boy's mom)

Julie said...

Thank you for sharing about your day! I felt like I was there...having just spent a few days "out" with my son. It is heartwarming, heartwrenching and wonderful, all at the same time, to kind of visualize what Daniel might be like in 14 years... Thanks for being there- I might need you! :)

Amber DBTD said...

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kristi said...

It sounds like an awesome day. Hugs for you, I know it was hard to leave him.

Motherhood for Dummies said...

wow sounds like you guys had a great day together. Also nice job and a fan stopping you! Look at you... your famouse :)

Marla said...

I am really happy you are so close to C so that day visits are possible. That has to be great.

I love the pictures. Looks like a really nice time. The balloons are an important message by A.

Elizabeth Channel said...

The Barbie thing reminds me of when I cut all my Barbies' hair into crew cuts. Wish I still had them.

And my father-in-law does wear socks with sandals all the time. Of course he is an engineer...

Thank you for posting! And thanks for reading my blog too.

I hope you have a lovely day.

Elizabeth

citizen of the world said...

Congratualtions on the award.

And I have noticed the same thing about not bothering to dress kids with disabilities with any degree of fashion? Why not?

Glad you tow got the day togetehr, even thought the ending was bittersweet.

nitebyrd said...

Your heart must break when he goes back to his group home but it also must swell with pride for him.

Sounds like you both enjoyed the day together.

You're a kick-ass Mum as well as a kick-ass blogger. Congrats!

LceeL said...

I think that's lovely - "Casdok, Are you Casdok?" And it's great that you and C could spend that time together on a summer day in August that was actually NICE, in London. And yes, you are One Kickass Blogger. Well done you.

Debbie said...

The sun was there to greet you and C--how wonderful your day sounded!
Many good wishes to you both as you transition into this next phase of your lives.

Maggie May said...

Glad you had a lovely time. Enjoyed reading your account of it all. fancy someone recognizing you! Course you are famous!

TOM FOOLERY said...

Glad you both had a great time in London. Thanks for the link on Autreach IT I have a lovely kind friend who writes IT code and modifies software for Blind/ disabled computer users. His hoping to go self-employed soon and this link maight be of interest to him. Thanks Casdok. TFx

Beth said...

Sounds like you had a wonderful day - and C. looks great. I like his hair that length!
Congratulations on your Kick Ass Blogger award!

Jerry Grasso said...

Love the fact that so many people comment on your blog...you and Ms. Maddie over at Whittier on Autism....

Also added you to my blogroll. That should help your numbers some. :-)

Joeymom said...

Oh, dear, I am getting old and out of fashion. I always wear socks with my sandals in the spring and fall. When I finally absolutely must give them up, I wear Dansko clogs. I need a new pair of clogs.

Sounds like a wonderful day. London is always wonderful. :)

MamaGeek said...

What a BEAUTIFUL adventure!

Hammer said...

Sounds like a good day.

The socks and sandals...yuck no way!

Elissa said...

What a fabulous day - I can feel the atmosphere of the festival just through your photos and words!

And as for socks... well... Jack will wear them (and shoes) now, but the socks have to be pulled up as high as they can possibly go!

Much love to you both xx

starrlife said...

Oh it must be so hard to say goodbye! You are very brave... and now so popular I can't take the time always to read all of your interesting comments! Whew! It does sound like a lovely day- glad you walked by that poster quickly,lol.
Nice to be recognized isn't it? Come by my new blog!

lifeasaplatypus said...

I am so glad you had a wonderful day together. This time of transition must be a huge adjustment for both of you. You have been his primary caregiver for so long and now he is "all growed up" and off at school! I will keep thinking good thoughts for you both!

and btw mama mara, ROFL!!! "Re the sock/sandals thing: my wusband does this too. He's not disabled in the traditional sense, unless fashion-challenged counts."

Mama Zen said...

Sounds like you had a great day out!

Hope the transition get easier. For both of you.

Shrinky said...

Oh my, what a great way to spend a day out, sounds as though you both enjoyed it immensely. And good on you about the socks, I couldn't agree more.

Jade said...

Wow, what a experience for you both! And to be recognized while out due to your blog, thats wild! Just goes to show how much people support and care for you and C. I think its a beautiful thing.

As hard as it must be for you I'm truly glad that you and C have moments to share with each other such as this outing.

I have to admit I kind of giggled when I read the bit about the socks and sandals. I see that all the time with the kids I work with and I have to tell you that 90% of the time I strip them off as soon as I get to their house! lol I mean I hate to see that on non-spectrum individuals. It just doesn't make sense! Its like saying "Here lets keep your feet covered but put sandals on so you can get your socks dirty, ohhh and lets pull those socks up to your knees while we're at it!" lol no sense at all to me....

Thank you for sharing, and as always you and C are in my thoughts and prayers.

WesterWitch/Headmistress said...

Wow Casdok - just look at all the comments.

What a heartwarming blog and I am proud to say that apart from a fascination with train windows I share something else with C - I feet watch as well!

WesterWitch/Headmistress said...

As for socks and sandals . . . mmmmm . . . shudder . . . . . * quickly takes of and hides bright pink socks* *hangs head*

Suburbia said...

So enjoyed reading about your day out together.
Socks and sandals, what are people thinking?!

CrazyCath said...

It must be incredibly hard for you both, but you are doing it. You will both adjust - it just takes time as anything does.
I'm glad you had such a good day out. Congrats on the award too - well deserved for a kickass lady! I don't kickass much anymore, but I enjoy watching others do it. ;0)

alan said...

What a beautiful celebration! "Liberty Festival" That is a fantastic idea!

The balloons brought a tear to my eye as you explained them, as it did when you spoke of taking him home. That someone as wonderful as you is recognized when you are out doesn't surprise me at all!

alan

Rhonda said...

Love your thoughts...
thanks so much for sharing your life with us.
You're wonderful.

Frogs' mom said...

Wow, that sounds like a wonderful day. Glad you got to spend it together. And spotted by your fans too?! Congratualations on a well deserved reward :0)

Seen This Scene That said...

A wonderful day out with sunshine and stardom! Love to hear more about your sunny outings for C and yourself. Take care!

JUST A MOM said...

I am number 90 wow girl just checkin in on ya... glad you are close enough and was it not just the coolest thing to be called out like that... well maybe not but hey no one calls me out like that... have a great week.

Kit Courteney said...

A lovely post. Always sad when there are goodbyes but you did right with the socks!

Dave Coulter said...

Sounds like a nice day out...other than those socks & sandals of course! ;)

whimsical brainpan said...

Sounds like a wonderful day. I'm glad you had fun.

I love the Barbie imperfecta!

Congratulations on the award!

Anne Brooke said...

Sounds like a fabulous day out for sure. I agree about the socks and sandals thing, even though my father always used to do that!!!

Axxx

Sarcasta-Mom said...

Wow, this looks like an amazing festival. I wish they had more events like that where I live, both entertaining and informative.

C will adjust to his new home before you know it. I can't imagine how hard it is to give him all this independance all at once, but it will be great for you both in the long run.

autismfamily said...

Nice pics from the day out with C. The first thing I always check are the ears and hair before we head out. At 13 my HFA son is not really interested in hygiene stuff, which seems to fit with what I have read about other kids in this age range. I am glad and lucky that he is homeschooled.

I like that kick ass logo and going to grab it so I have a second award on my page. True what you say about autism moms.

CrackerLilo said...

What a great idea for a festival, and I'm glad you two had a happy day out!

My Autism Insights said...

I wish C a speedy adjustment to his new home. I can't imagine how tough it must be to let go - for both of you, but it seems as if it's going well!

Kahless said...

I am glad you both had a great day out. And people guessed who you were!

Great!

motherx said...

Sounds like you had a great day out. Yes! why do people dress disabled kids like plebs!! it drives me insane!! its like they are saying "Oh they are just disabled why would they have any interest in fashion!" I hate that!! Sorry havent been able to email you as I have been locked out of msn!! annoying. The end is near now, 1 more week but thanks for your support. It is appreciated. x

melody is slurping life said...

That is the type of day I love...glad you and your son were able to enjoy it together.

Good grief yes, the socks! Nothing more to say about that. And you know, feet watching is pretty interesting, really.

Irene said...

How can I add my puny little words to all these comments? I am glad that you care about how C looks when he goes out with you, somehow that comforts me, that he should look like the handsome young man he is. I hope he has clothes that rock. T-shirts that really express him and have style. Cool pants and shorts. Why shouldn't he look his best? He is as human and possibly as vain as we all are. If he isn't, then you are, aren't you? Give him a big hug and a kiss from me. I would do it myself, but the Channel is in the way.

Angela said...

An award for you on my blog.

http://memoirsofachaoticmommy.blogspot.com/2008/09/givin-and-takinawards.html

Chris H said...

How neat that you can have C for the day often now! Lucky you can make him leave the train station seeing as he loves it so much! That is so cool! Socks and bloody sandals!!! Far out I hope you asked his Carers not to do that again! Idiots.

vivavavoom said...

wow...I have never seen a blogger get 109 comments. you seriously KICK ASS and deserve that award. I am all with you on the sandals and socks thing. Unfortunately people do that normally where I live and I find it horrible. I have no idea why. sandals = bare feet, socks = sneakers or shoes.

thanks for letting us join you on your day out. sounded great! I want to see your barbie though.

Crystal Jigsaw said...

C is having some wonderful experiences with you lately. You sound really happy.

CJ xx

blogthatmama said...

Sounds like you had a brilliant day out and the pictures looked great fun. Blogthatmamax

Hammie said...

Wow Casdok,
I must admit I took an autism sabbatical during August as the reality show in my own home was quite enough for me, so this is my first visit back. And look at what I missed!!!
Cannot even begin to read all your comments.
Big props to you for C's big adventure.(Living away from you) That must be so tough but I imagine, good for him. And more props for going to London. I do it on my own every 6 months or so, but would love to bring Boo (same reasons, Underground especially) With Bratty about to try respite again we may attempt it as a couple, 2-1.
And SO AGREE WITH YOU ON FASHION!!!
I decided years ago that my kids were not going to have the "special needs" haircut, that is more representitive of someone elses taste than their own. And as for socks with sandies! Well, fortunately my Boo knows this. We tried on runners for the first time since June on Sunday; and he had outgrown them, barely worn! So we had to go back to the Primagi Sandies and he said "No Socks". That's my boy. He also accessorises and co-ordinates his "euro chic" look appropriately. With a Ewan McGregor 'Hawk hairdo.
I don't even like to think about why special needs care workers would think otherwise. We obviously need to educate THEM in the rules of the Fashion Police.

And the little statue money box thing with calipers. Certainly rings a bell with me. (and I grew up in Australia) I wonder if you know that when the British left Ireland, The irish re-painted all the Pillar boxes green. (for spite, my favourite) It makes them very hard to notice (I always forget to post letters as the boxes blend in so well) but it was a statement.
I wonder if the artist re-decorating "chip" knows this.

Anyway, great to hear about the festival, and great to see that funny thing, what's it called?? Oh yeah, SUNSHINE!!!
xx

Irene said...

I'm so sorry I am late with wishing you a Happy Birthday, but here it is nevertheless. I hope you managed to have a nice day and that it was a birthday worth remembering for all the right reasons.

I suppose that C is not aware of people's birthdays persé, but he must like balloons and cakes and candles, does he?

How does he feel about fireworks, by the way, are they wonderful to him or does he find them too noisy?

Is he intrigued by things that have repeating patterns in them, such as wallpaper or roughly woven materials, or do things like that bother him?

I know, all these questions. I thought my son was autistic when he was small. He did not like his different foods to touch each other on his plate and became quite distraught if they did.

Big hugs for you, xoxox

Casdok said...

Thank you Irene, C and i had a great day. And your right he dosnt understand birthdays/xmas etc.
Fireworks are too noisy, he finds them very difficult.
C is fasinated by repeating patterns and will loose himself him them.
But hes not bothered by food touching-its just food in general!
:)

A Bishops Wife said...

Casdok,

Thank you for continuing to visit my blogg. I have been immersed in this class and I am not doing well in it.

I am happy you are able to spend weekends with C. The festival sounds like it was a great time.

Half rabbit said...

Hammie, what exactly is a "special needs" haircut? (yes I searched google but couldn't find a matching style of haircuts)

Hammie said...

Hi Halfrabbit, In my opinion: any haircut that a typically developing kid or adult would not stand for. I did a home job on my Bratty's fringe once in 2003(she wouldnt go to a hairdresser) and the result taught me that it was better to let it grow!
Many of the kids have this aversion but there are ways and means, long hair can be very cute and fashionable. A lot of the kids have buzz cuts where my kids go to school which show off their eyes and lovely cheekbones (and make it easier to avoid the headlice outbreaks) My Boo goes to a sympathetic barber where there are no hairdryers or people ie. women, nattering about holidays.
If you want to google, try the actor Nicholas Hoult in "About a Boy"; I think he had that haircut that no one else wants, which Hugh Grant's character fixes. Can't remember if they used it in the film, but it was in the book for defo.
Hope that helps, xx

She said...

Happy Belated Birthday! : )

Half rabbit said...

Hammie, Maybe I should change my hairstyle as the one here from the movie you mentioned looks like mine. :) http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/1/13839/14_2008/about%20a%20boy.preview.jpg

dawn said...

Listen Mom the socks and sandal thing is not for only the disabled, I find most people here that where it are so called normal and just really bad dressers. I don't know what I would do with Barbie but I'm sure I would try something. I'm glad you had such a great day!!

The Dotterel said...

Great post! Great to read you again, and great that the day went well (apart from socks, that is!).

virtual voyage1.wordpress.com said...

Good to read your post again - have a little more time on my hands at the moment and glad you enjoyed the day up in town.

DJ Kirkby said...

Hi
I thought I had commented on this post already?! I only came round to see if you had the widget yet but I see you havent...pop over to mine and look on my side bar at the 'Decide' widget, it is loadsa fun! You can get your own from Caroline's blog. Thank you for my award btw. xo

McBöbø said...

I see you've been Black Box widget surfing more than blogging! Can't blame you. It's too much fun!!!

Caroline said...

I travelled with my widget.
Fascinating post and a topic that is close to my heart.

So glad to have found you.

Kelly Kirch said...

Interesting blog. Got here through the black box. Nifty device that one.

Exmoorjane said...

Oh My God - 128 comments!!! Hey, Casdok, guess where the black box brought me?!!
Lots of love, Janexxx

Inthemud said...

Hi , It's me, The black box brought me here!
What fun!

trousers said...

The black box thingy brought me here too - I was aware of your site - sort of - previously though. x

trousers said...

..and again!

DOT said...

Really pleased to have discovered, courtesy of the Black Boxes widget. My friend's son is somewhere on the autistic spectrum. He is a great lad. I shall have to inform his Dad about your blog.

Glad to see you and C are so active about autism and having fun too.

Papercuts said...

The widget keeps bringing me here; it must really want to put us together, so...HELLO! :D

Ken said...

Wow I have never ever seen so many comments, I will make this short, i loved it, a blck box brought me here!

hullabrouhaha said...

Hi there, Black Boxes brought me here.

The idea of Barbie imperfections really appeals to me. I like the idea of bloated Barbie, who walks at a bit of an odd angle becaues she has water retention an period pains. now that would be more realistic.

I bought some Barbies for fun, so I could have a wee experiment. I might try out something new on my blog.

Mei Del said...

what a fabulous post to land on from black boxing this morning! the socks and sandals thingy? one of my boy now 11 years old used to dress himself that way, in the summer, when we were on holiday, going to the beach even! when i asked him why he kept his socks on he said he didn't want snails to crawl on his feet. he was around 6 i think ...

liz fenwick said...

here from caroline's Black Boxes.....never notices about the socks and sandals thing but your right. The question is what does it says about the people who chose to dress others in this???

DJ Kirkby said...

Yay, black box brought me here again!!!!

liz fenwick said...

Hi again. This time it was my dd's clicking that brought us here :-)

liz fenwick said...

I'm almost too ashamed to own up to being here again and I can't even blame dd this time!

trousers said...

Me again :)

HelenMH said...

The widget brought me here too. Glad it did!

womagwriter said...

I'm here from the black box too. What a moving blog - so full of love. Congratulations - you sound like a truly wonderful parent.

SSC~ The Domestic Diva said...

I didn't understand your blog, when I saw mother of sherk, I just clicked on it and left. Then I came back today and read the little header underneath your blog title.

I use to call my ex's girlfriend
( my former best friend) Shrek.

Reading your post, I wanted to cry, I wanted to read more. I liked the part about the socks, I laughed.

I am glad you enjoyed the day with your son and I look forward to many other posts!!!!

earthlingorgeous said...

Hi Casdok, I really love your blog :) Anyway, I have a friendship award/badge for you :) Nice meeting you here:)

Twinville said...

I fell here into your blog via a little black box. I feel like I've been transported through another dimension.

I wasn't going to even leave a comment because I felt we had nothing in common, but after spending a litte time here, your blog has touched my heart.

My daughter has Aspergers and OCD and one of my sons has a autism symptoms induced by an automoble caused brain injury.

Do you homeschool?

I really was touched to my core by your poem about C. And the video of a Happ C reminded me of how my son gets when joy overtakes him.

Thanks for sharing your life.
I'm glad for little black boxes that trasport us to new places. :-)

~Lisa
Laughing Orca Ranch
New Mexico

bohemian mummy said...

I'm here from a black box. In fact the black box has sent me here many times before, i'm thinking it's a sign that i need to me made more aware of Autism as i know practically nothing about it.

You sound like you both had a wonderful day.

I shall be back again to read more, and acquire a better understanding of Autism.

Club 166 said...

Great pics, and a great description of a wonderful day. Glad to see that you and C are mostly coping well with the transition.

Joe

TLP said...

I'm here through the BlackBox.

You have a delightful blog. I enjoyed reading this post a great deal.

SnoopMurph said...

Sounds like a delightful day out with C!

I chuckled at the socks and sandals-my father-in-law does this all the time-regardless of our fashion advice.

And my son Connor loves wearing his Lighting McQueen socks and sandals, too. Maybe C is on to something? Lol!

Cheryl said...

Came here via the Black Box! :)

DFTF said...

I keep landing here via Black Box, so I must be meant to tell you that I was touched reading about your son. :-)

Dad Stuff said...

What a great day. I had no idea you were such a celebrity. Well, I had some idea.

I always thought socks and sandals were cool. Is that why all of the cool kids laugh at me? Or are they jealous?

I'm glad you and C could enjoy the day together. Good luck with the new home transitioning.

Posh Totty said...

found you via my black box ..... about 15 times in a row lol ... so thought it was obviously trying to tell me something, so thought Id best pop in and say hi :o) xx

Virtual Voyage said...

Well if I didn't know about black boxes I do now!

Just came across this article while reading Psychology today and wondered if it was of interest.

http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/positively-autism/200809/the-power-positive-news

E said...

I've missed you and C. Thanks for the update.
I think it sounds like he is adjusting better than you might think. After all he did go back and he let you leave again. It sounded trying but not impossible. I think that may mean he has already made some pretty huge adjustments.
And oh God the socks...yes. Well, it isn't that people only do it to people with learning disabilities. Those same people do it to themselves too. Look around. The world's common fashion divas are failing pretty spectacularly.....
As always I am inspired by your bravery and your new faith in every day. Stay in touch Casdok

Gayle said...

When I was 17 my mom took me to Europe for 6 weeks. One of the places I remember the most was Trafalgar Square. It was the first time (and only time)a pidgeon landed on my head. Tried to climb up on the lions, but it was raining and slippery. Such a nice place. (I'd make Barbie have saggy boobs!)

Bee said...

I just saw that you left a comment on my blog in July and for whatever reason it never made it to my mailbox!! I'm sorry about that as I would have been on your blog earlier! Will be back! ;-)

auntiegwen said...

hello again

visiting via black box but still reading, glad C and you had such a fab day.

xx

NEO-CONDUIT said...

what a great blog. My son has A.D.D and O.D.D. This makes him difficult and intolerable alot of the time. Many of my friends don't tolerate him, as do family. He is angry and 6 foot tall, and nearly 17 years old. The mental health service denied him treatment as they knew he would fail at their input. I heard later from a professional that they only took on kids with a good success rate, to keep their stats up. As a now solo mum with health issues its hard work. But you don't stop the love.

Karen said...

What a wonderful day you had.
I know what you mean about socks and sandals - I don't know why ANYONE would do that to another human being, let alone a young adult!
I will link to your blog as it looks like a lovely community.
Karen
;-))

Mima said...

I'm just popping in - not quite up to blogging yet, but I am trying to catch up with what all my blogging friends have been up to. It sounds as if you had the most fantastic day, but nothing from you for ages, so I hope that things are ok with you both. I really do know though that life can very easily get in the way of blogging, and that when things are not going well putting pen to paper becomes very difficult.

I just really hope that you are both well and that C is enjoying his new home (and that you haven't arrived to find in in socks and sandals again!).

Debs said...

Ive been brought here by the black box widget, loving it.

Seamus said...

Hi from across the pond! Sounds like a good day out! :)

LAA and Family said...

What a fun day! I'm glad C lives closer to you now and that you can visit with him for the day. I hope he'll adjust better as time goes on and he gets used to it. Thanks for the updates and all the fun stuff you share with us!

LceeL said...

I has been a while - since you've posted and since you've visited. I just want to know that you're okay, okay?

Bella said...

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Thanks for such an important post.
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