Wednesday, 11 June 2008

Parenting skills

As you know C will soon be moving into a full time home. One of the things this means for me is that I will have to give up the part time work that i do and love and find a flexible (so I can still have C home) full time job.
According to a survey a mothers job description would mean she could earn £30,000 pa (and the rest!) Parents develop many skills and as an autistic parent you develop more specialist skills and find sides of your self you never even knew existed.

I found this example of a resume for a housewife. However under 'experience' I think mine would read more like this;

Expert poo cleaner
Problem solving
Creative
Negotiator
Diplomat
Child development
Psychologist
Psychiatrist
Anger management
Stress management
Law
Human resources
Advocate
Campaigner
Mind reader
Therapist
Dr
Specialist chef
Researcher
Can read body language
Sign language
Good at following routines
Patience of a saint!
Thomas the tank engine expert
Can work under stress and on very little sleep.

With my love of all things Star Trek I quite liked the sound of this! Would you give me a reference?!
What would be on your CV and what would be your fantasy job?

105 comments:

DJ Kirkby said...

I'd give you a reference!

Cheri said...

You forgot teacher!

My dream job would be traveling the world as a freelance photographer. I can hear the Carribean breezes calling my name!

LittleBrownDog said...

Well, I'm not sure I'd pass the interview for motherhood, but I guess I cobble it together somehow (although I dread to think what my son will be telling his therapist about me in years to come...)

Hope C's transition to his new home goes smoothly, and I'd certainly give you a glowing reference - you can add thoughtfulness, resiliance and making people smile to your list.

Jen said...

Definitely a book reviewer.

Good luck with the job hunt!

Beth said...

Yes, I would definitely give you a reference but if you (secretly) suffer from claustrophobia and make a fool of yourself in space, it will reflect very badly on me.
I've developed more skills as a mother than in any other job I've had. Pity this does not translate into a well-paying job when needed.
Best of luck with the job search!

Patti said...

I'd certainly give you a reference.

Do they have blogs in space? You could be the first outer space blogger.

I also hope C's transition goes well. Take care ~

akakarma said...

Are you kidding!? You could do anything with your qualifications- run the universe...
Seriously, anything with kids,mental health- case management, paraeducator would all come naturally. But wouldn't it be nice to just work in a bookstore or mow lawns? Oops- sorry, my own fantasies leaching through!lol

Dave Coulter said...

Please please please go to work at the UN. With your background you could straighten the world out inside of a month! ;)

BenefitScroungingScum said...

Ooh, I hope all these changes go as easily as possible. Perhaps working in a school would suit with the holidays (the pay is pretty good too!)?
My idea job would be a writer with super dooper voice activated software, BG x

Phil Plasma said...

Good luck with the job hunt, I hope something works out.

My dream job would be for me to be a philanthropist.

Club 166 said...

...Thomas the tank engine expert...

I don't know why, but that one made me laugh the most! I dare you to put that on your resume.

Joe

Sandpiper said...

I would have to echo Cheri's comment above! Take me awayyyyyyyyy!

laughingwolf said...

i'd give you a referral cas...

as for the list, i did most... as dad of three

Maddy said...

Reference? No problem. Don't fancy space travel, air travel is more than enough of a problem. Out here a CV is a Resume [without the French pronunciation]. As for my next career, I rather fancy 'lounge lizard.'
Cheers

Inthemud said...

I'd definately give you a reference. With a list of talents as long as that, you could in effect take on any job you wanted to try really.

My ideal job is what i'm doing now, combines all aspects of social care and is flexible enough to fit around family.And I get to sit and natter to people all day and drink tea and get paid! Pretty good really!

lime said...

when i get told by people i should have a paying job i let them know i'll submit a bill for services rendered and make it retroactive.

Angela said...

Oh for sure I would give you a reference! You need to write a book!

teeni said...

I still haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up.

I would think that because of your experience as a single mom of an autistic child that in addition to having all the skills of a regular mom, you'd also be super sensitive to unspoken needs and be extremely intuitive.

buffalodickdy said...

Your experience would make you the best candidate for anything with patience- like customer service!
My fantasy job? All my fantasies don't include the word "job"!

Kittymama said...

Agree with Angela! I'll brave the exchange rate and change my pesos to pounds (or euros?) to get your book anytime!

And just to add to your "experience" list- how about chronicler/writer?
~♥Kittymama

Attila The Mom said...

Well howdy! Nice to see you posting!

Lisa *leelee* said...

It seriously stinks to have all these abilities and no degree.We should have complimentary degrees with every child born with autism or other disorders.I myself am a small critter catcher:)Saving one small critter from death at a time.Good luck on the hunt.I would be a door greeter.Hi welcome and give the kiddies a sticker and a smile.Oh wait that would be working for the public oh no.Hmm next lol.

TraceyTreasure said...

You forgot Teacher and Sheriff. I keep the "peace" all the time around here. It was so great to hear from you. I answered you in my comments. I hope you don't mind stopping by again! Can you sew? I used to make handmade baby blankets and give them (most of them) away and sometimes, I would sell them. Finding an employer who is flexible is key. Is there something you could do at C's new home-away-from-home? Keep your eyes on the newspaper and I'm sure you'll find something! Best of Luck and Big Hugs!! T (Queen @$$ Wipe) He he he!!

Melissa said...

Add chauffeur, housekeeper, analyst and special events coordinator to your list and that'll do, ma'am, that'll do. Fantasy job? Ummm...Tina's Fey's best friend/personal assistant would be fun!

Good luck finding a flexible f/t job!

nitebyrd said...

Come over here and run for president! Your first qualification is definitely something we are in desparate need of! LOL

Yeah, I'd recommend you for any job you'd want.

My CV would read:
Expert television and movie watcher. Also proficient in reading anything. Hates to cook.

Mima said...

Of course I would give you a reference, I think that any job working with people would suit you, and that is nearly anything!!

I don't think that I have learned very much that's useful over the last few years, but I do think that my people management skills have improved a little - but they are still not good - its one of the things that I find most difficult about the whole situation!

You must have nerves of steel to have managed to cope with everything that has been thrown at you along the way, and I think they would serve very well for an astronaut!

Quin Browne said...

i found my dream job, and get to do it daily.

being what i am helps.

Mrs. C said...

I tried to read the article, but then I got snookered into reading all about the "English gigolo." It looked like one of the fellows from Duran Duran escaped the early 80's and posed for a mugshot on the sofa. All that English media!

I hope you're able to find something soon and I've been thinking of you.

Jen P said...

Sounds "out of this world." ok ok bad pun.

However, I would recommend you for the job, but you have to take me with you!

Shrinky said...

Good luck with the job search - and with C's transition - change is never easy, but it can often prove positive in the long run.

WherestheBox said...

Great list!

Maybe...
Laminating/Velcro specialist
Lego builder
Finder of small toys

ChainingMagic said...

I'd give you a reference! You can handle pressure.

Akelamalu said...

Good luck with the job search, I know it's not easy but there's just the job for you out there somewhere!

Grit said...

i'm grateful to be beyond employment, if only to get out of having to write a cv. if i must, it would include knuckle-chewing (mine, not other people's, obviously.) good luck with your endeavours though!

farmwifetwo said...

Don't forget lobbyist.

Good luck on your job hunt...

I just dream about selling unbrella's on a beach some where...

S

Michelle (The Beartwinsmom) said...

Oh, I'd give you a reference without any hesitation!!!

You forgot politician because when you're trying to get services for your child, you're always trying to finesse people to get what you want/need. ;-)

My dream job would be running a tutoring center for special needs students.

WesterWitch/Headmistress said...

A glowing reference and a purple hug from me.

Suburbia said...

Full time flexible work? You're certainly qualified, probably for anything!
My fantasy job - artist.
Good Luck :)

LceeL said...

You. are. Royalty.

citizen of the world said...

Good luck with C's move and the job hunt.

I don't know about my fantasy job. If money were no object, I could imagine working for an environmental nonprofit group. Or working with plants in some way.

Jenster said...

I say aim for the stars!

Marla said...

I hope you find a job that makes you happy and has some fun to it.

It has been quite a while since I have been able to have a job. I have always wanted to run a resort. More than likely I will go back into social work one day.

Ron said...

Hi Casdok!

I was so HAPPY to see your post on my reader.

YAY!!! Casdok posted!!!

Hey, with your list of experience here...you would be perfect for ANY job! I bet you would make a wonderful Human Resource Manager. I have a feeling you're going to find something wonderful, that fits your needs for flexibility!

I have many various jobs that I make a living through. I don't like having only one task to do. I do a little bit of everything.

My fantasy job would be anything that uses my creativity and that's not too structured. I work best when I can make choices on my own. I enjoy working with people, but also enjoy working alone.

I'm investigating the possiblities of having some sort of on-line business, where I can work from home and also have the flexibility to take it wherever I am.

I guess you could call me a "gypsy heart."

Great talking to you, Casdok. And thanks for stopping by my blog today. It was so nice seeing you!

Love to you and C!

Pavel said...

Good luck to you on your job hunting! I've always been impressed at what a mom of your caliber can put on a resume based on your experience. I'd hire you in a second!

SnoopMurph said...

You definitely would receive a top-notch reference from me!

The list was perfect. I would add for me Lego spaceship building coach and adept multitasker.

I would love to write or edit as well as continue in arts advocacy and now I am thinking about ways to combine arts advocacy with special needs students.

I wish you all the best and I hope you find what will suit your talents, needs and allow you the time you need for C.

Jodi said...

on my CV
official observer
read-between-the-lines

Fantasy job? working in a greenhouse...no chocolate taster!

Betsy said...

Oh are so right! Mom's of typical children have long, impressive lists on their resumes and we mom's of children with autism can double it...in length and intensity! Hey....I'm a Thomas the Tank Engine Expert, too! :)
Hope all works out well for the home and your job! xoxo

Bettina said...

at first glance I thought it said "extreme poo cleaner" not "expert" lmao

Lane said...

You'd win The Apprentice hands down (although Sir Alan may not require the poo skills:-)

Dream job? Extremely well paid writer. We can but dream:-)

Raven said...

I'm glad that things are progressing so that C can settle happily into his new home. Your artwork below is really beautiful. Have you thought of work as a decorator? You could set your own hours. And I think you should add that to your already impressive resume here.

Motherhood for Dummies said...

OH a dream job! Does offical beach tester work? BUt in all reality.. I would love to work for a travel magazine and be a photographer... just traveling around and taking shots. Oh what fun!

Crystal Jigsaw said...

I've got my fantasy job already - a farmer! Not forgetting the parenting skills of an autistic child. I'm not sure I could match your list but I'd have a go!!!

CJ xx

Working mum said...

What a list! I having nothing but admiration for you. Employers would be lucky to get you. I hope you find something suitable soon.

btw I read an article once about autistic children and Thomas the Tank Engine - I thought it was unfounded, now I'm not so sure. Daughter has a Thomas the Tank Engine bedroom so I'm an expert too!

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

I once told a friend that my work with my son had turned me into an amateur occupational therapist. She said, "At this point, you're no longer an amateur! You're an OT."

Eileen said...

Casdok,

I would give you a reference, without hesitation. You would be a blessing to anyone that hires you.

My fantasy job would be to sell art, in a seaside village, with the ocean breeze blowing in all day. I would have to sell other people's art, since I don't have a creative gene in my body, but that would be fine.

I do wish you the best of luck with your job search. I hope you find something you love, gives you the flexibility and financial security you need.

XOXO

MMC said...

Pretty sure my resume couldn't compare with yours, my dear. But drop by my place if you would. I left a little treat for you.

MamaGeek said...

Best of luck on your job hunting! I am SIMPLY in awe at those skills!

leslie said...

Any mother who has had to deal with what you deal with could run the entire world. I know that I've developed a lot of similar skills as you what with having a husband who was mentally ill and committed suicide and now dealing with a daughter who has inherited the bipolar part of her Dad's illness. In fact, I was at the ER last night until 3:00 am while she underwent IV to get rid of a terrible migraine! Poor thing suffers from those on top of everything else! Best of luck on the job search - I'd definitely give you a reference.

Oh, my fantasy job? Writing and illustrating children's books while living in a beachside cottage with an English country garden, complete with eye-candy gardener. Hah!

Nancie said...

I am praying for you that you will find something suitable. You are truly a super housewife! I admire your strength and courage, love and dedication to your son and family. Take care and God bless!

Jocelyn said...

My CV would have to include: able to fold laundry at 1 a.m.

My dream job would be full-time blog writing. Don't know how folding laundry could help out with that...maybe limbering up my hands before typing?

Rosie said...

welcome back....I reckon that you could do anything that you wanted...it is the deciding that is difficult.
I change regularly. This morning I think I would like to be a free range poultry smallholder...

Debs said...

Fantasy job would be as a writer working from my shed each day, bliss.

Congratulations on your contribution being in You're Not The Only One. Can't wait to read it.

Dx

Deb said...

writer/photographer.

Good luck with everything.

E said...

You forgot teacher, psychologist, minister, mediaor, politician, and diplomat.
You are going to have soem fun in whatever next life you choose. So is C....Good vibes and prayers from Vermont

Sarah said...

I'd give you a reference if you returned the favor!! I'm also a ST geek, so I'm right there with you :D

Good to see you again! I check every day just in case you slip in an update!!!

dawn said...

Super woman I would definetly give you a reference. I would not have the job I have now without being a mom and leArning so well how to multi task. anyway I think my dream job would be to open a puppy mill and have all my dogs with me. Silly huh but peaceful. Much luv Casdok

Cait O'Connor said...

Writer....First thing I would write would be a glowing reference for you.
Reach for the stars......

Dianne said...

As I read the list, being a single Mom all my son's life, I nodded and either said - yep, do that - or - yep, could do that.

I want to have an advice column in a huge newspaper chain. None of that ladylike or silly crap. I want to say things like - "No, don't kill him, you'll look horrible in prison garb! Just empty the accounts and leave and take the good car"

And I want a call-in radio show. On satellite so I can curse a lot.

Flea said...

You certainly have my reference.

My dream job would be full time writer and heirloom seamstress.

Dad Stuff said...

I'm still looking for an opening for a cake taster/movie watcher.

david mcmahon said...

May I say, very simply and very sincerely, that as a father I am entitled to observe that any mother is entitled to SuperWoman status.

God bless all of you, and thank you.

Yes, you know without asking that I would give you a glowing reference .....

Chris H said...

My CV would read:
Can do anything if I really want to... but don't expect me to look after your kids, I have enough of me own and I don't even like them half the time!

Kelley said...

I have psychs, occupational therapists and speechies calling ME to ask for advice. So I am calling myself a consultant and should start charging them!

Waiting (as you are I am sure) for news on how C goes in his new home. Will be me in what feels like a heartbeat.

Merlin's Wizard said...

My CV would be "jack of all master of none"! I would give you a reference you sound great!

Take Care

Merlins Wizard
xxx

Rhonda said...

Yes I'll give you a reference!

My fantasy job? hmmmmmm.
Maybe to get paid to plan parties!

Hammer said...

That list should be about 18 pages :)

bobbie said...

You have a reference from me any day of the week.
I like Dianne's comment. And advice column - flexible full time. And you could certainly do the job.
I wish you all kinds of good luck in your job search.You're overqualified for most jobs I can think of.
I pray C settles into his new home quickly.

Mother Angel said...

I want to give you the biggest hug because I feel so much like you... even the little picture is exactly like a sketch I once drawn of myself!
Its is overhuman but its so called unconditional love!
xxx

motherx said...

Id def give you a reference! Love the poo cleaner! (know that too well! Id add spit cleaner to mine!) my fantasy job would have to be something like carrie bradshaw on sex in the city! Id love to be a lady who lunches! x

CrazyCath said...

I think your CV is spot on! Along with your "and the rest" comment to £30,000 p.a. ;0)

Mine would be similar except I would not be quite as expert at poo cleaning now, although mind reader and psychologist are definite parenting skills!

Great post again. Nice to see you pop in and hanging around. :0)

J said...

I've always said mothers need more arms!!! Great pic. I'd give you a reference anytime. : )

My fantasy job? A nature photographer or assistant travelling the world.

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Hi Casdok, have been catching up with your news, and see that great progress has been made - I do hope that C will be able to settle in his new 'home'. So much of your life and energy has been devoted to his well-being (and always will be I know). Your amazing talents will lead you to something good, I'm sure. Love and thoughts. M xx

Philip. said...

Great resume!

You should try being a man though, sometimes we have to contend with two things on the go at the same time - eating and drinking. So, please give a thought to us - LOL

Seen This Scene That said...

Mothering should be the only line on your CV because you do such a brilliant job!

Take care!

vivavavoom said...

I'd hire you. Do you also have "awesome bullshit detector" on there! that comes with dealing with those who do not understand special needs and basically just being a mom!!

Can Bass 1 said...

85 comments! 85 comments! Aren't these people in gainful employment? And how on earth do you get time to read them all. (Of course, I'm jealous!)

ChainingMagic said...

Thank you for your lovely comment! :)

J said...

Ain't that the truth!! Very well put :)

Preposterous Ponderings said...

You're hired!

FXSmom said...

expert poo cleaner...I LOVE that!!

Nora said...

I had to move my blog. I hope you'll come to see me. Love , Nora.

http://brightandsunny.wordpress.com/

Ellee Seymour said...

I wish you both well, you deserve to succeed, you are so resourceful and intelligent.

DJ Kirkby said...

I just read your contribution in 'You're not the only one' it was beautiful.

KC's Blog said...

Definitely would give you the best reference ever. You are an amazing Mama and C is amazing too :)
You are truly a God send :)

Bonnie said...

If ever we expand to Europe, you would be the first person I would hire! Blessings to you my friend.

bart said...

you amaze me with your dedication, honesty and humour occasionally...

thanks for making the world a better place... keep well...

Stinking Billy said...

I would like to gift you the hundredth comment on this one, because you are worth it, but I would rather make sure you get it before disappearing again. ;-)

CAMILLA said...

A shining reference and big purple hugs from me.

Write a book, your dedication is amazing.

Love Camilla.xx

Dondi Tiples said...

Sponge. Some days you can squeeze a whole river out of us, moms.

Angie said...

I agree that you should write a book. You're so eloquent. What a wonderful piece if art it would be for all of us...

Suzy said...

Write, write, write.

People listen to you.

Love,

Suzy

Angela said...

Good luck on job searching

Yes mothers do have lots of training.

CrazyCath said...

Just checking in....

Thanks for popping in on me now and again. It's always good to see you.

Hope C is settling ok and you are getting used to it...

Annette Piper said...

Thanks for popping by my blog! Mothers are super (capable) heroes, obviously!!

Elissa said...

I'd definitely give you a reference...
And I'd have to put 'lion expert' on mine!