Saturday, 26 January 2008

Maintenance

The lovely Crystal Jigsaw has tagged with a meme on 5 Household maintenance tips. And as my household revolves round autism I thought I would give tips on relieving stress in an autistic house.

1. Know your subject. By now im sure I have could have gained degrees in Psychology, Psychiatry, Law, Nutrition, Anatomy to name but a few oh and of course autism.
Knowledge is power. (As its usually the professionals that give me the most stress!)

2. A good friend is essential to let of steam to.
An understanding friend is better than a therapist; and cheaper too!
3. Look in to alternative therapies not only for your child but yourself as well.
I.e. I looked into colour therapy not only for Cs bedroom but for mine to so I have a relaxing safe haven to escape to. Aromatherapy doesn’t seem to calm C, but it sure helps me!

4. Remember some things do get better.
You will become more expert in cleaning up food, poo etc without batting an eye lid. You will let more stares and comments from the public go over your head. And you will become more adept in to managing and avoiding melt downs.
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. ~Winston Churchill

5. Have easy access to Chocolate and coffee, or your vice of choice.
Treat yourself.


Im sure these tips would stand well in any house! Any other suggestions?

I now tag anyone and everyone who wants to be tagged! And obviously like me you can put your own spin on it.

36 comments:

Chris H said...

5 Household Maintenance Tips:
1/ Throw a glass of ice cold water over your teenagers when you want them to get out of bed so you can tidy their room.

2/ Scream loudly enough and your little kids WILL pick up their toys!

3/ Keep the bath clean by hosing the kids down outside on a hot day.

4/ The neighbours roof is a good place to throw teenagers shoes when they keep leaving them in the middle of the lounge floor.

5/ Get good at plastering and painting for when your teenager kicks a hole in the wall....

and Finally...a bonus one

6/ Learn good self control so you are not tempted to ram said teenagers head through that same wall!

These tips will help you maintain a nice tidy household. Amen.

Chris H said...

Obviously my household revolves around NOT THROTTLING my kids! LOL

Jen said...

Take care of yourself before anyone else. If the main parent falls apart, nothing else is really going to matter. Develop a support system for yourself and USE it.

Plan for obsessions...make sure that you have a LOT of whatever it is on hand in case of power outages, snow storms, or lean financial times. You don't want to run out of chicken fingers/cheerios/red food on day 2 of a big storm. And get more copies of any favourite videotapes, CDs, or TV shows than you think that you will ever need. You don't know how long you'll be needing them (we're on our 10th year of Barney fascination now).

Use separate binders to organize paperwork- medical, school, behaviour etc. There will be some overlap, but it's easier to find what you need. And keep copies of all funding submissions for every year- it makes filling them out the next year a lot easier.

Treat a good worker or professional like gold. Remember birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays. Keep them up to date on anything current with your family- don't expect them to know everything no matter how well they know your child.

When dealing with professionals, politeness goes a very long way, especially when there are problems. An antagonistic attitude isn't always necessary, or helpful.

If you're part of a couple, plan date nights. Even if it is just sitting talking for 2 hours a week after your child goes to bed (hopefully), you're not going to make it together if you are just parents, and not a couple.

Always remember that autism is a part of your household...don't make it the centre of it. You might have to make some accomodations, but don't deprive all of your family (even the autistic child), of the benefits of living as "normal" a family life as possible.

Keep a one page handout on your child to give to those friends and family who don't understand but want to be involved. "Autism is a developmental disability caused by blah blah blah" isn't nearly as helpful as "Bob likes to be tickled on his legs, and when he doesn't look you in the eyes when he talks it doesn't mean that he's not listening."

Learn to live with the fact that some kids are sensory, so if you don't want them drinking your soy sauce or bathing in maple syrup, ORGANIZE so that they can't get to it.

Make at least one nice spot (even a corner) in your house that is "autism free", and use it when you need to recharge yourself. Whatever makes you feel better, use it.

DJ Kirkby said...

Great tips! Esp the coffee and choc one...essential knowledge for survival.

Woozle1967 said...

Good to catch up with you. A good aromatherapy massage or Indian head massage.... wonderful. And I couldn't live without my lists.... I immediately de-stress when I know I have got everything down on paper and then my mind can relax.

BTW - fab blog on the plastic bags (my pet hate!)

Marita said...

Fantastic tips!

When my girls and I are getting stressed we lie down on the bed together and scream. Helps us all decompress and is great fun.

katy said...

just making a note of no 5, right that done i am off to eat chocolate and drink coffee mmmmm

Frances said...

Casdok, as always, I really do like the spin you've spun right here!
xo

Jodi said...

chocolate and coffee! sounds like a daily necessity!

Crystal Jigsaw said...

Well done for making this meme into something that isn't only fun that one that is essential in a forever routine household.

Crystal xx

lime said...

for those who have spouses i'd advise making sure you take time to nurture each other...not getting lost in the shuffle of advocating for your child

Bonnie said...

Coffee and chocolate we have a lot of it in our house. Tip #6 Throw away the scale! :-P

titration said...

I'm catching up on my blog reading today...saw this and thought, yes need does cause us to get near degree's in topics just because we want have to. Maybe that oft quoted phrase should be necessity is the mother of education instead of invention. :)

Tom Foolery (TF) said...

My household tip...
.
Glass of wine/good book
v
ironing/washing/cleanng etc etc
.
No contest! TFX

Omega Mum said...

Upbeat and gorgeous as always.

Niksmom said...

Another great and useful post. The timing isperfect, too, as I have been struggling with this very issue! Thanks to you and Jen for some really great tips and perspectives.

Attila The Mom said...

A sturdy lock on the bathroom door is a must. And a gallon of bubble bath always on hand. ;-)

Sandy C. said...

GReat tips! Especially #5..we also MUST have coffee or tea (any caffeine) available at all times....

Nancy said...

All your tips are good ... especially to remember to treat yourself.

motherx said...

Coffee with honey, st johns wort, tribus ter, green tea, pharmaton capulses, dha caps, zoitrim all help to make me a calm nice person. And whatever else I can lay my hands on!

laughingwolf said...

thx cas, i'll do mine when i find time

Maddy said...

Yup the University of life is so much cheaper than a student loan.
Best wishes

slouching mom said...

Those are some wonderful tips -- not only for those parenting autistic children, but for parents more generally! Thanks!

Marlee said...

I *definitely* don't keep enough chocolate around here!! :)

Palm Springs Savant said...

"easy access to chocolate" that is my recipe for a happy household for sure

Rising Rainbow said...

I could skip the coffee and get double on the chocolate.

Mrs. G. said...

I think a chocolate and coffee holster would come in handy in life, don't you? Keep treating yourself.

Angela said...

I always have chocolate on hand and Um I guess I have potatoes too. No joke. Mash potatoes do help a tummy

MOTHER OF MANY said...

My vice of choice is so uninspired compared to your own.....fresh baked crusty bread!It's a carb thing.

UN PEU LOUFOQUE said...

Well said Casdok. Nice ot have some positive things said!

Moondreamer said...

Love this too ... have had so much fun reading your blog!

I'd love to try this and pass it on to others when I get a chance. Your tips are excellent, thank you!

:o)

Moondreamer said...

Casdok, thank you! I've done this meme on my blog, from the perspective of a mum of two teenage girls ... great fun!

I'm sure other student parents will have fun with it too. And I know they'll find your tips very helpful, and your blog very interesting, so I've added you as a link too ... hope you don't mind :o)

Elissa - Managing Autism said...

I love your tips!!!

... especially number 5!
xx

frog ponds rock... said...

Thanks Casdok.. I will pinch this meme from you and I will link to you when I post it.. cheers thanks kim :)

Patti said...

Like many of the others, I also like the access to chocolate and coffee!!

Creative post as always, Casdok

Tera said...

Kaeden LOVEs when I put lavender oil on his pillow at night. I don't know if it helps him relax or not, but he sure does enjoy it!