Tuesday, 18 December 2007

My butterfly

A woman found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. She sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the woman decided to help the butterfly. She took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shrivelled wings.
The woman continued to watch the butterfly because she expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.
Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shrivelled wings. It never was able to fly.
What the woman, in her kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were nature’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If we are allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
We would not be as strong as what we could have been.
We could never fly!

Here's a great 3d illusion for the kids to make!


Oh and i would like to say excellent news re Arsenal football team for choosing an autistic charity for their next season.


I must now fly down south and pick C up from boarding school.

41 comments:

belle said...

Timely reminder, thanks. It's hard to stand back and watch, though isn't it?

frog ponds rock... said...

xxx kim

Nancy said...

So very true.

Have a safe trip picking up C.

Pig in the Kitchen said...

I so agree. A bit of strife makes you stronger and more able to empathise. Have a wonderful Christmas with C.
Pigx

laughingwolf said...

excellent links, thank you, cas!

and it's true, without pain/struggle we cannot become the folk we need to be... blessings

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

That was a beautiful peace! Enjoy your christmas with C!

Christy said...

That is a beautiful story. Good luck with your trip to pick up C. I hope you find him doing well. =o)

inherwritemind1 said...

The butterfly story is a great metaphor. We can't always "fix" someone, nor should we assume they need fixing.

Thanks for this reminder.

Maya M said...

As a child, I have killed bean seedling as I tried to help them grow by pulling.

Phil Plasma said...

Good luck!

J said...

Your analogy was brilliant. Butterflies have been a particular love of mine for a long time. There is definitely truth to the idea that obstacles make us stronger.

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

Beautiful analogy. Thanks for sharing. And best wishes for your trip to pick up C!

PI said...

Have a safe journey and I hope all goes well. Happy Christmas to you both.

dawn said...

I don't know where you find these things but they are fantastic.(illusions and pictures). Have a good flight and hope your journey is smooth

katy said...

that's amazing.
have a safe trip x

The Muse said...

Have a safe trip and enjoy your time together.

Happy Holidays!

country girl said...

Struggles make us who we are; I've had my share and feel I'm stronger for them. Thanks for reminding me that nature has a way of making things happen. No one needs to intervene. Although my therapist sure did help with my struggles. ;>))

Marla said...

What a neat story. So true. I am excited you are picking up C.

MOTHER OF MANY said...

Forget the kids, I want to make the dragon myself he is so cute.I hope you have a safe journey.

Cyndi said...

Thanks for that butterfly story. We visited the special needs preschool with Matthew today and he screamed/cried the enitre time. I was second guessing my decision to let him attend but I know (and your buttefly story reinforced it) he has to go to make progress. Hopefully he won't cry like that (he was hysterical at times)the entire day. Everything was so new to him (the lights, smells, sounds, and other children in his face)and he was very overwhelmed/out of his comfort zone. My poor baby!

Tom Foolery (TF) said...

That post is so right....TFX

Ange said...

Sometimes I get very tired of the cliche "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" but I wouldn't be who I am (or at least that's what I tell myself) without the past that's shaped me...for better or for worse.

San said...

What a lovely parable, Casdok. Thank you.

Maddy said...

What an interesting perspective. Sounds like it ought to be a Greek Myth.

Hope your school collection is traffic free.
Best wishes

This is my calling card or link"Whittereronautism"until blogger comments get themselves sorted out.

whimsicalnbrainpan said...

So true!

BBC said...

I have had many struggles over millions of years. And many in this lifetime.

I've lived under trees in this lifetime, and others, and if I have to again I will be okay with it.

That is life on this planet of chaos. Be thankful that you have the money and can fly somewhere, many can't.

Many women take care of their autistic offspring 24/7/365 while living under trees with little help from others.

I hope that you reflect at times how thankful you should be for that larger village support.

But as the world degrades I'm not sure you should keep expecting to get it.

I would like to think it won't go that way but looking down on the bigger picture it isn't very pretty.

Oh, and the football people are only trying to get some support for themselves, to make themselves look good.

Plenty of women will still be beat and battered after their games, and some of them will die. How does that make you feel?

BBC said...

PS... Big time sports isn't about love and supporting other things. It's about competition and these days about money, big money.

So they pretend to support other causes so that you will support them so that they can keep collecting big money and fat paychecks.

They don't pay for that support, their fans do. How do you feel about that?

coloursofdawn said...

That is so true. I have read the story before. To be honest, I fear the trials, not so much the struggles, but things that are so much bigger than I think I am. I am not sure I have the strength to deal with what so many others do. But then perhaps I have faced struggles others would find more difficult than I have.

I checked out the dragon illusion. It is a cool project.

Just thought I would come and visit again, it has been quite some time since I was last here.

d. chedwick bryant said...

You are so right--it would cripple us if there were no obstacles-- how many times have we wished for an easier way, only to look back and see we needed to walk the hard road.

kristina said...

Lovely----struggles only me stronger. Hope it's a good trip for C back home.

Hope said...

Ttraveling mercies. That was a lovely story.

Rhonda said...

Wonderful point of view on struggle.
Most of the time I really don't embrace struggle.
I'm learning to the older I get.
It's all a part of the journey.

Thanks for sharing this.

Anne Brooke said...

Very true - and very thought-provoking indeed ...

Hugs

A
xxx

DJ Kirkby said...

That was sooo intresting!

Casdok said...

BBC. You are so right about women being battered because of football. Apprenlty during the last world cup 12 women died here. Refuges were made specialy for women at that time.
I know its about money etc (the amounts of money i cant get my head round), and they certainly should do more for charity and thier fans etc.

Debs said...

So inspiring and thought provoking as usual, Casdok.

S E E Quine said...

` Is that really true? That's like killing a baby bird by helping it out of its egg.

JUST A MOM said...

I LOVE THAT,,, it is so , just so... WOW thank you for sharing

Kahless said...

A lovely tale.

Hope you have a wonderful christmas with C.

Delilah said...

Beautiful. And true. Have a safe trip and enjoy your time with C!

Odat said...

No pain, no gain....we all go thru this at some points in our lives...Thanks for the beautiful story.
Peace