Official business first - Who is the proud winner of the Mother of Shrek First wordless Wednesday Winners button? Well to be honest i couldn't decide!! (I wont be so generous next week!) So everyone who entered can help them selves to this;
Made by Aunt of Shrek (Thank you sis x) And thank you DJKirkby for the idea!
I recently did a post on support from family and friends but we are also supported by a variety of professionals.
There are some professionals to whom it is just a job, and don’t really understand what they are dealing with (in terms of C that is).
Gone are the days where they could come into your house and have a cuppa and really get to know you, your child and your lives. Now problems are dealt with either by email or over the phone. Very rarely do I now see a professional in person.
Yes we sometimes give them a hard time, or rather the system a hard time. But it is not personal, and the ones who are good at their job know this.
Professionals come and go, the bad ones don’t always last as they cant cope (they actually give me more stress than C does!) and the good ones don’t always last as they get promoted, move on or get pregnant!
When a professional has left, if I then see one in the town (as the mother of Shrek I have my radar fully turned on, scanning for stray dogs, small children, bicycles and teenagers who want to torment, and how I am going to manage to keep walking in a straight line (any of these causes C to head bang) I usually spot them before they see us. When they do see us they pretend not to, or turn away or even turn round. I think they think I am going to lynch them or give them the latest update on C. But all I actually want is a smile, an acknowledgement that we did - do matter and exist.
But anyway. There are good professionals out there, They don’t pretend to be the experts, they listen to you and really support you. These are the ones who want to make a difference and do care. And their reward? Under paid, over worked and poor working conditions.
These professionals are usually the social workers and they get a bad press. The social workers whom if you haven’t tided your house, or if you say you are finding it hard to cope cart your children off into care! This is not the case, if it was C would be in a foster home by now! By having a social worker you are not admitting defeat, you maybe just need that extra support.
I have had a few very good social workers in my time, and I thank each of them for going that extra mile and making me feel like a human not a case file.