Monday, 19 November 2007

Public toilets



C loves sitting on toilets! Yes just sitting. He has worked out it is a good place to hide from people when it all gets too much. So much so that I cant get him off the loo sometimes for up to an hour!

When out and about with C it is not always easy to find a disabled toilet and of course I have to remember to carry my radar key. So if I haven’t got my key or cant find a disabled loo I have to take C in the ladies. Being a 6 foot young man this raises eye brows, but what else can you do?
Some disabled toilet doors now work automatically so you cant quickly shut them behind you, as soon as C sees a loo as he works on visual prompts his trousers are down by his knees and the door is still wide open! So I try and avoid these loos.
The other kind of toilet I try and avoid are the ones on trains. This is only since a rather embarrassing incident. C had had an accident, I wont go into too much detail but basically I hadn’t locked the loo door properly and a rather red faced woman was standing there mouth open whilst I was kneeling over C sitting on the loo with me trying to pull his trousers off!
We have also missed our station a few times as he has decided to stay in there! Needless to say we now don’t use the loos on trains.
I also don’t take C to bathroom show rooms, for obvious reasons!
Oh and today is world toilet day!!!

37 comments:

Pipany said...

Casdok, it must be a true pain when you visit somewhere new with C. Working out where the loos are is bad enough at the best of times but having to make sure they are of a particular type..... xx

BBC said...

It must be very difficult for you at times. Very trying, and you need a hug. ((Casdok))

The loo's at the marina here would be just right for him, well, other than others would get irritated at him for taking up so much time.

I'm the kind of guy that would build one on a trailer and pack it around with me. :-)

Jen said...

Hahaha...I hear you on bathroom show rooms! I took my kids to one when they were about 3 (for some reason I thought that it would be easier to do it when they were with me rather than waiting until I had a sitter), and I had two of them with their pants down before I could even turn around. Not one of our best outings.

I don't know whether it's funny or sad that your brain automatically starts planning ahead for every outing after a while...thank God it does, but the things that we have to think about just amaze me.

(And I always console myself that it could be worse...I have a few friends whose kids will ONLY use the home toilet, so they literally can't go anywhere for more than about an hour).

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mumkeepingsane said...

I imagine you know where every bathroom is and exactly what type of bathroom it is around where you live.

Helen said...

I can for sure understand the problems that this brings with it.

But I had some BIG grin in my face imagining what that lady in the train might have thought *lol*

Shari said...

I have tried to make sure the kids used the bathroom before we go anywhere. Once they were potty trained, they would want to try out all the bathrooms in the stores. I can't imagine keeping track of which bathrooms were best for C.

What'll they think of next? Toilet Day? True, we do take it for granted. How about a Shower Day, too? Just kidding.

Suzanne said...

My C is also a bit of a lingerer. He spends more time on the toilet than his dad. ;p He seems to prefer public toilets ... and porta-potties are not built for 2! (much like the loo on the train I guess) Thanks for writing. You make me smile.

Maddy said...

It is? World Toilet day! Around here no-one flushes [save the world!] but that's in part due to the noise. Public restrooms are a private hazard.
Cheers

bonbon momma said...

I agree with Maddy on the flushing. We can't flush, my son would go beserk!
Happy world toilet day everyone!!
Thanks for visiting my blog, and now you have the pleasure of writing 8 interesting things about yourself;
You've been tagged. You're supposed to write 8 interesting or random things about yourself, and then ask 8 other bloggers to do the same. Have fun! :o)

~bon

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

It's wonderful that C has found a place where he can go and feel safe wherever he is, when he feels overwhelmed. But there's always a price to be paid for that, isn't there?

My son is terrified of public bathrooms -- he doesn't like the echoing noises in them -- and he really doesn't like the loud toilet flushes. Automatic flush toilets, where he doesn't have full control over when it flushes, are the worst!

Marla Fauchier Baltes said...

World Toilet Day??? Are you kidding me? Wow! I am thankful they were invented. No doubt about that. We still struggle with public restroom issues. Our problem is getting our daughther to be willing to sit on one for longer than a few minutes and putting off the most important "movement" of the day. Ugh.

Ange said...

I don't get the whole male identification with the toilet thing... my husband often visits the toilet and is in there for an hour. I don't think it's humanly possible to have to eliminate that much, but there he stays several times a day.... :)

Joy said...

Sounds like interesting bathroom adventures! Adrian is just getting into wanting to 'check out' the public bathrooms wherever we go. He was so psyched when Dad let him use the urinal the other day! :)

Amanda said...

every bathroom must be tried....BUT
automatic flush toilets are a cause of anxiety for P. (too unpredictable)

Amanda said...

video is done...hope you like it!
the rap got cut quite a bit BUT is in its entirety in the vid. description,
with credit,

BenefitScroungingScum said...

I've seen those awful automatic toilet doors open on people a couple of times on trains, soooo embarrassing!
It does make life difficult when you can't go anywhere without knowing where the loo is. BG

Casdok said...

Amanda, Its brillient! Thank you!

her indoors said...

gosh this is something i wuold have not thought about, i am learning so much through reading your blog thank you.
and not way world toilet day, i got an email that you might find amusing or not, hope i haven't deleted it, if you would like me to send it just e mail me and ask for the toilet e mail

Phil Plasma said...

Happy World Toilet Day!

With each read of your blog I am gaining more and more insight as to how much your day to day existence is different because of C. Your blog is a real eye-opener.

Chris H said...

I know it's NOT funny but come on! The thought of visiting a bathroom showroom shop .... is kinda funny! I'm sure I've seen a movie where some guy does use a loo in the shop! Life is full of tricky situations for you for sure!!!! I bet you have had more than a million 'embarassing' moments... I think you either have to have an amazing sense of humour or just learn to stay at home! Me, I vote for the humour. And I love that blue loo!

Casdok said...

Oh yes i have had my share of moments!

Anne Brooke said...

Toilets are hugely important! I always judge a place by how good the toilets are. One of our profs at uni has even written a thesis on the social/psychological aspects of toilets - he's a world expert! Even speaks at conferences about it ...

:))

A
xxx

david mcmahon said...

What a great post for World Toilet Day ....

It's such a pleasure to read your work.

buffalodickdy said...

Happy World Toilet Day! God bless Mr. Crapper!

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

I wan the fish tank toilet! (I'd never get 7yo out of the bathroom if I did though!)

cher said...

apparently i loved my potty as a child. loved it, walked around with it, brought it places, but would never go in it.

Jodi said...

I can relate to some embarrassing moments! My 12 year old son once stripped naked on the side of a very crowded swimming pool. It took me awhile to get to him with a towel. Not fun!

C said...

My son has Asperger's syndrome and can relate to some of the incidents. However, my son is only going on 7 years old so it does not look odd for me to take him into the ladies restroom.

You at least seem to handle this with some humor.

Kelly, Brooklyns mom said...

I am sure at the time you were not laughing but I can only imagine what that lady on the train must have thought. It is events like this that make us the moms that we are right? Stronger. Tougher. and able to LAUGH at ourselves! Thanks for sharing. Oh, and I LOVE the last post. I DID have to stare for quite awhile and to be honest, never really cared to even notice the ocean. :)

TheBirdman33 said...

I never in a million years would have known there is a world toilet day lol

What is a radar key? Do they have special "disabled" toilets over there that you get your own key for?

kristina said...

Goes without saying a topic of utmost importance! My principle is that, alas, we sometimes leave even the dirtiest public ones even dirtier.....the worst Charlie and I were in was coated in gasoline grease.

Nancy said...

I just plain ole love how you tell your stories, trials and tribulations of you and C.
As hard as some things may be, you seem to take the high road and always find the best in it all =)
This was a story told in a fun way, but also showed how somethings we take for granted are well though out by you.

Elissa said...

We had an interesting toileting experience on a train once where I couldn't hold out any longer, and my son (who came with me because I couldn't leave him on his own) decided to open the door on me before I had my pants up.

My own fault, I hadn't worked out how to lock the door properly - which probably made it all the more embarrassing.

KC's Blog said...

When K.C. finds something he likes he tends to take a really long time to finish whatever he maybe doing at the moment. I call it "K.C. time." When I mention "K.C. time" to his Big brother he knows we are in for a long haul he he.
C definitely has got it figured out that the bathroom is a good place to be when things get too much.

whimsicalnbrainpan said...

I'm with C, a bathroom is a great place to retreat to.

LOL! Happy World Toilet Day!

DJ Kirkby said...

N3S loves toilets too! Not nessesarily sitting on them and doing his business but just being in them!