Thursday, 22 November 2007

Life does evolve


And the winner of this most prestigious award goes to................. Chopski with "Captain Kirk's nicked my dildo so its your lucky day!"


I have posted about a few embarrassing moments with C. There are many more as I'm sure you can imagine. C has changed over the years and we don't have many such incidents, and some things have become easier (some harder.) One of the great changes is bath time.

This used to be an absolute nightmare. And because C used to smear daily, it was a daily nightmare. I would end up wetter than him. There were times when i used to take C to my friends house so her husband could bath him as i was just unable to.
Today, aged 19, C loves a bath. I use a lavender bubble bath, candles and music. He will even sometimes take his fingers out of his ears just for a few moments. C is unable to wash himself and still wont allow me to ( if he is in the bath long enough any poo dissolves!) But he will get in and does lay there!

So if you feel at the end of your tether, just remember it may not always be like that. 'Some' things do change.

27 comments:

Chris H said...

Thank god for that! I hate having to bath the kids (it kills my back).... Stew usually does it.... and eventually they do grow up and can do it themselves .... except in your case ... which is a shame. You have a veritable 'book' full of interesting experiences to share .... and life is all about changes so it is all good! Imagine how boring life would be if we were all the same, with the same experiences! No thanks!

PI said...

If ever i am at the end of my tether I think of you and some other friends and the very sick children I nursed. It's good to get one's priorities right.

Crystal Jigsaw said...

A routine for Amy! It's usually the time of day when she can start winding down.

Crystal xx

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

Not that it's anything to do with what you have to deal with, but I've just visited a client who had a two year old screaming all the way through the consultation, not leaving her mummy alone, she's tired as hell, and I said to her. 'Don't worry, it does get easier' and it's true, it does. I love watching my children grow. (And I'm so happy they are out of that stage!)

Suzy said...

Interesting comment chris h said- you do have a book and maybe it's a good time to write it!
I'm quite serious. I certainly have loved knowing and hearing about C. I am sure others would also. It's knowledge that everyone should have about autistic children, whatever spectrum they are on.

Lavender baths! that is lovely for C. And with music and cd's!!! Don't we all love a little bit of this!

Love,
Suzy

abstractjenn said...

Thanks goodness things change - there are days that I couldn't keep going if that wasn't the case. I'm continually amazed how you pull the positive out of everything - it's fabulous.

Today in the good old US of A it's Thanksgiving. We all get together with our families eat too much drink too much and argue. What a great tradition. Well at least it's two additional days off of work.

Hope you have a good day!

Marla Fauchier Baltes said...

That does sound like a challenging bath time. Luckily, we have had good luck with baths once Maizie reached the age of three she tolerated them. Before that she screamed at the top of her lungs the whole time. After age three she went through phases where she would insist on bathing up to five times a day. We never had enough hot water for that and then she would cry and cry. I think it had to do with sensory struggles back then and it calmed her. Now, she plays and sings in the tub till she is a raisin. We still can't get her to do any of the real cleaning on her own though. LIke you said, soaking in the tub removes a lot.

captain corky said...

I'm always inspired by how devoted you are to C and how much you love him.

BBC said...

"'Some' things do change."

Yes, some things do change.
And some things don't.
Mutter, mutter.

Self employed mum said...

Hi Casdok, just catching up on your posts, loving the pictures and the comments were hilarious. x

Nancy said...

Lavender, candles, and music ... I'd lay there too and not let anyone touch me =)

I love how you share all these stories, the funny, the hurtful, and the ones that just warm my heart.

C has given so much to so many via your writings.

Today, in the U.S., is Thanksgiving ... and I give thanks for your sharing C with me.

Suffolkmum said...

I think that's a really positive reminder for everyone. I've never had to face the challenges that you have, but I had a difficult time after my first was born, with horrible post-natal depression, and I just couldn't see that things DO change and situations that you're stuck in don't stay that way for ever. I guess all parents have been through challenging times to some extent or other, yet the years go by and you think 'oh yes, I remember that, it was dreadful' - but it's like remembering another life now.

Pipany said...

How very true Casdok. Change is what I need to think about when I feel as though life is taking me over...it Will change. Hope C is well and you are too xx

Phil Plasma said...

I'm glad that got easier, I hope other things get easier too.

deb said...

I put Katie to bed last night and she was knocked on her door about twenty minutes later. I walked in to find poop smeared on the walls and her face. She hasn't done that in a long time. She actually dislikes poop on her hands now.

But I was tired and I yelled at her. She looked so sad and I felt so bad but it was the end of a long day. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be to clean up but sometimes any poop is too much.

Maddy said...

Baths were fine when they were little and manageable but more difficult as they get older.

We still spend many weeks desensitizing them every year between showers [summer ] and baths [winter] Heads are still off limits.

Smearing past for us [thank goodness] but we still have lots of accidents. I think I missed my calling as a laundrymaid.
Best wishes

Top cat said...

wow..I can't even imagine dealing with this.
I hope you have a beautiful weekend.:)
tc

The Boy said...

I can barely imagine, but vive la change. Life wouldn't be surviveable if it was always the same...

Ange said...

thank goodness for those things that change... and those things that don't.

B.T.Bear (esq.) said...

I don't do barths. Yukkity yuk.
Mummy haz lots ov that lavender stuff, tho.
:@o

Chopski said...

Thanks for the award I'll put it up with pride!!!

bullet said...

Johnsons do a lovely lavender bubble bath, as do Asda :).
Baths are mostly ok here, except that Tom hates having his hair and face get wet now, so he clings onto me like limpet, which means that when I have to rinse the shampoo off him, I get soaked. He also a tad loud. He loves the rest of it though.
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Omega Mum said...

Your humour and fortitude never cease to make me feel very humble. Loved this.

TheBirdman33 said...

Very good point!

I think on a daily basis you show patience that very few can relate to.

BBC said...

Some things don't change, some women can't return love in kind.

Jade said...

Yes they do, and so glad to see that you notice that. And thank you for the reminder. I need it right now. At the moment I'm working with a 4 year old boy on potty training. I have 4 hour shifts with him, so he now wears "big boy" underwear while I'm there working with him, and every 15 minutes he's on the potty. Lets just say I've already been pee'd on twice and have helped the mom clean her carpets too many times to count!
Thanks again for the reminder, and...for being the strong woman that you are. You have definitely earned your spot on my "Strong Women" list.
Lots of postive energy your way!

Jocelyn said...

This is an amazing snapshot that illustrates so much more than it covers.

If that makes any sense.