Thursday, 13 September 2007

!!!! STRESS !!!!

We all get stressed, whatever our situation.

Only you can help yourself deal with your own stress.

Here are some of the things that have helped me over the years.

The biggest one for me is acceptance. (Accepting my sons behaviours are just part of him. At the moment I am finding the public the most stressful as I am having a hard time accepting their reactions to my son.)
Good friends. A good friend is cheaper than a therapist.
Healthy eating
Divorce. Don’t recommend this for everyone!
Herbal products
Bach remedies
Having the right information
Good sex (or so I am told!)
Voluntary work. (Helping others can help yourself.)
Sitting on committees. (No maybe not!!!)
And my new one.......Blogging !!

To help C with his frustration and anxiety with this supposedly NT world, I have tried a few things, there are many more but not always appropriate.
Also must add I have never tried to ‘cure’ him and never would. Doesn’t even bear thinking about as then he would not be him!!!

Colour therapy
Music therapy
24 hour curriculum
Sensory rooms
Drugs. This to me was a last resort. Research these very carefully.

What have you found helps you and/or your child/adult?

Maybe i should add how C helps himself.
He keeps himself to himself, if people intrude he head bangs, he permanently has his fingers in his ears! And he stims. Big time! Routine and not speaking.
How do other autistic people help themselves?


Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Being a Christian, the biggest help with stress for me is praying, but I guess that depends on whether you believe or not.

Jade said...

Well for myself, writing has always been a great stress reliever. Being near water, and physical activity are always great helpers when I'm feeling stressed.
I don't have children, but I am a ABA practitioner. One of the most effective methods I've come across in helping my clients deal with stress is compression therapy. Pillow squeezes, foot rubs, hand squeezes, head squeezes. Your basic physical sensory diet.

Jodi said...

I go for the chocolate! Warm baths are great too. My son experiences a lot of anxiety, we haven't found the magic "fix" yet, but we're working on it. I hear for some people, deep breathing works well. I need to work with my son on that.

Anonymous said...

Dark chocolate, sex and when thats not available cleaning!!oh yeah, a good friend to talk to!!

Anonymous said...

Working voluntary at Amy's school is certainly uplifting for me.

Good friends and a good chat, definitely.

Giving someone a mouthful when they show their ignorance at my daughter's autism - I don't do this often!

Listening to my favourite piece of music and playing it on the piano.

I, too, would never want to cure Amy. There is no cure. She is my daughter and I love her just the way she is.

Crystal xx

Suffolkmum said...

For me, writing, and some form of deep breathing/yoga/meditation - and, importantly, gardening. THat connection with the earth and the outdoors is becoming increasingly important to me. My son can be an anxious soul, and I've found bach flower remedies helpful, again, fresh air and excercise (but in a peaceful, solitary way for him), and deep breathing.

mcewen said...

Now that's very curious. I'm familiar with [and tried] everything except Reike. Dare I display my ignorance so publicly and ask you to explain a little more?
BEst wishes

Casdok said...

Of course you can ask! Reiki is healing of the energy flow trhough the body. Bit like acupunture without the needles. If you look at my blog on communication i mention it there as well.
If nothing else it is very relaxing. Give it a go!

Anonymous said...

Meditation and laughter.

Anonymous said...

Meditation and prayer is useful in relieving stress. Taking 15 minutes everyday just to do that can be a world of difference.

Anonymous said...

Sitting outside on a crisp cold evening looking up at the stars with silence all around.

Not possible in most urban towns I know, but well worth taking the time out to do when you get a chance!

Dori (Aviva's mommy) said...

Your list sounds perfect to me...especially having good friends, that is so important. And reading, you can escape the real world.

PS. Thanks for visiting my blog.

Nicole said...

Great list! I try to get some alone time...a weekend least once a year. It helps me to recharge.

I really like your blog! I love "Autism can't be cured but ignorance can!" Great quote.

Thanks for visiting me today as well.

Hugs, Nicole

WesterWitch/Headmistress said...

A friend of mine plays music to her autistic child - it is the only thing that calms him.

dgibbs said...

I love to blog but also to read. I find it helps the stress.

Carol said...

I Like to stroke my cat in times of stress!!!

Anonymous said...

When you mention Sensory rooms, I wonder have you heard about Snoezelen rooms?:

They are sensory rooms designed especially for those with disabliites. I have to admit, as someone who isn't as disabled (I do have Asperger's Syndrome), I think the rooms look really cool! It's nice to see someone create something for those with disablities that make the NTs jelous.

The rooms are expensive. I think sometimes they might tour with a Snoezelen. Also, I think there are some sites that sell parts which you can just use stand-alone. You might have to look around the net a little, because the concept is by a foreign company. So most of the sites about it are in a foreign language. There are more English sites though, as the concept gains more awareness.

Casdok said...

Whwn i said sensory rooms i actually ment Snoezlem room but didnt think anyone would know what it was!!
They are great!!

Anonymous said...

Two words.

Video games! :D

Dinah said...

there is a free programme called reactive colours which is sheer joy to play with and I find very soothing - as do many people autistic and otherwise, of all ages
it is at
dancing all night (getting a bit old for that)
looking for mushrooms

Marla Fauchier Baltes said...

My daughter retreats to her room a lot for alone time. She also craves deep pressure hugs and rolls through her steam roller to release stress.
This site has some great products. I like walking.