Friday, 28 September 2007

Prisoner on Mars

I seem to have collected a few new comers here in Shrek land. Welcome one and all!!! So i thought i would briefly describe my son C and his autism.

I wrote it all out, but it didn't feel right as it all sounded so negative. C is autistic, autism is C. It is the way he is, as i am the way i am, or the way you are. It is not negative! We all have different personality traits that make us - us. C is no different. we are all unique. What is normal? But you all know all that! So i will get off my soap box!

So instead of a synopsis on Cs behaviours i wrote a poem which might give you a better feel?

Prisoner on Mars

You’ve landed on Mars
Way out in the stars
You meet strange little men
You try and communicate with them.

But they don’t understand you
So what can you do?
Their body language is different
They laugh instead of cry
Make funny noises instead of sigh.

You try and learn their ways
Instead of them learning yours
You don’t fit in
They just point and grin.

Sometimes its so hard to get through
You bang your head or arm you chew
You stamp your feet with a high pitched squeal
None of this can be real.

Mars can be frightening as it is weird
For humans it is not geared
You have to learn the basics, to eat, sleep, go to the loo
As a non Martian, not easy to do.

Nothing makes sense
You hide the anxiety inside - the best defence
To keep your sanity you stick to routine
And put up a smoke screen.

There’s so much new info to store
Its easier to withdraw.
You live in your own world to feel safe.
Mars is a very strange place.


Anonymous said...

What a beautiful and insightful poem - as always, you are very talented with your words.
And you are right, we are all who we are, we are unique, and that's what makes us - us.

Vi said...

Wow, that was beautiful! so apt for your reward!

Chris H said...

congratulations on the award, you deserve it mate. Have a neat weekend.

Pipany said...

Beautifully put Casdok. Thank you for the insights into your world with your precious C xx

Suzy said...

Congratulations Casdok! To you and C!!!


Billy Boy said...

You should be a writer for mags and have your own book of poems.....

Suffolkmum said...

You seemed to hit the nail on the head with that poem, from the little I know about autism.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations on your well deserved award.

All I can say about your blog is it's wonderful as always. Your words are so very true and when you say how autism is C, I was saying exactly the same thing yesterday to a friend of mine.

Crystal xx

Ashley's Mom said...

I LOVE the poem, and congratulations on the award - very well deserved!

dgibbs said...

Thats the best explaination I've ever read.

Thank you

Maya M said...

Excellent poem, and I think it shows that you understand C well, no matter how difficult communication is for him.

Randy said...

Excellent poem. Yeah, communication is extremely frustrating for my kids too.

I might add that I was slightly maladjusted socially as a lad and had to learn much that other guys just seem to get by osmosis.

Randy said...

Oh yeah, congratulations on the award!

kirayoshi said...

That's a very good poem which describes things well. Thanks.

Casdok said...

Thank you everyone. High praise indeed!
Thanks Billy Boy but my poems are not that good!!

Westerwitch/Headmistress said...

Congratulations on the award from me too. The poem is amazing . . . I know a little about Autism, but not a great deal and your poem helps with the empathy of children and adults in this special world.

There is no normal . . .it is merely a bench where the judgmental gather.

Nancy said...

Congrats on the well deserved award.

Your poem is perfect ... autism or not, we all can relate ... I have been there on "Mars" too.

I love your blog.

BenefitScroungingScum said...

Hi casdok, I also think that's the best description of autism I've read. Congratulations on your award!
I don't know a great deal about autism per se, just that a doctor tried to diagnose my father when he was 5, over 50 years ago. He wasn't diagnosed formally due to pressure from the family but I suspect that was a doctor years ahead of his time!
I do know there is now starting to be research done into potential links between the autistic spectrum and the hypermobility syndromes (ehlers danlos primarily) as patients have reported so many crossovers. It'll be fascinating to see what develops from that.
Bendy Girl

Casdok said...

Intersting as C has some hypermobility problems in his hands and feet. Unfortunalty he is not able enough to have any physio.

Little Wing said...

Never let me hear you say your poems are not that good (shaking finger at you)......your poems should be published and you certainly deserve the award!
You are spreading the message and doing such a great job of it!
You and C rock.

Club 166 said...

Congrats on the award. Loved reading about your adventure in the Hindu Kush. Sorry about the leg.


Anonymous said...

Great poem!

Tabba said...

Congrats on another award!
See? They're so awesome to get!!!

This poem was so...right on.

merry weather said...

I think that expresses it beautifully - and from his point of view. It made me stop and think. Thanks.

Unknown said...

You're a poet.

C sounds wonderful.

I have a friend who works with an autistic child. She believes she's a better person because of it.

Casdok said...

Im sure she is, they teach us without knowing about ourselves and society.
Thank you!

Anonymous said...

I don't think you are on a soap box, you are just telling it like it is. Good poem.

BBC said...

I don't know much about Autism. It would be interesting to see what is in some of those brains though. Maybe there are great cosmic secrets in there.

I don't know that I could live with an autistic person. I guess that would depend on their disposition. Some may be easier to get along with than a 'normal' person that is full of attitudes like so many of the youth seem to have today.

I can see that something like that would be difficult to put into words, I have trouble trying to write about some of the things I talk about. But it doesn't stop me from trying. LOL.. Cheers to you.

BBC said...

Autism...Inability to treat others as people.

Is that true? Does that include an inability to treat themselves as people?

Marla said...

I love your blog. Check out my daughter Maizie's Blog at
Maizie has been diagnosed autistic but we recently found she has an extra chromosome. I love love love your blog!

Marla said...

I love your blog. I am putting it in my favorites so I can read every bit of it soon. Check out my daughter's blog at
Very insightful stuff. Thank you for being so open.

Toadee said...

your poem really does help to explain the unexplainable. Thank you

Jocelyn said...

Congrats on the award! I'm one of your newcomers and have to read back a bit to get up to speed.

You sound wonderful.

DJ Kirkby said...

a multitalented blooger I see! Great poem!

Inthemud said...

Casdok! I am honoured to receive an Award from you, Thank you so much, i'm sure i don't deserve it.

But much appreciated.

Muddie xx

Casdok said...

BBC, to answer your question, Autism...Inability to treat others as people. That statement is a bit ott! And not true for all autistics.
But i think fairly true for for my son. As he can wash himself, dress hiomself, or turn the tv on etc etc, he is dependant on others to do everything, so he sees people more as tools.
But then i could be wrong!

Beth said...

Such a beautiful poem. It explains so much - and reveals your love and understanding.

Niksmom said...

Casdok, thanks for your recent comments on my posts. :-) This poem is fabulous; I think you *should* publish it. As I've been catching up on your posts, I am fascinated not only by some of your experiences but the way you are with C. Your love for him is palpable and beautiful.

Dr. Russell Norman Murray said...

Congratulations on the award, and I like the Mars photos.

Elizabeth McClung said...

Thank you for the Award! And thanks for the poem - Will you do one about being a translator too, I hope? How often do you translate for C, or stand between the two worlds/societies?

April said...

This is a great blog, you definitely deserve it! Congratulations!